Trust in slave training:
In his book “It’s Your Ship: Management Techniques from the Best Damn Ship in the Navy”, U. S. Navy Commander Michael Abrashoff says that personal trust is like a bank. You need to make trust deposits often and let it build up quantity and interest. He points out that as events happen in life, you may well need to spend some of this trust so you need reserves. Spend the trust wisely and save it for emergencies.
This may well be true in slave training. The slave girl you are training may react the wrong way to a training step you take or you might just make a stupid mistake were extra trust in the bank will help.
It is nice to have trust in the bank to spend when that happens.
Trust In a Master/slave relationship
Often the big key to successful slave training is based on the amount of trust she has in her Master.
What composes this “Bank of Trust” that she has is her belief that he has the knowledge and skills to train her correctly, keep her physically and emotionally safe, accepts ownership of her as a slave girl once trained, will structure service to make her useful and productive and has stability in his on life. With this foundation trust can be deposited in the bank.
Trust Bankruptcy in slave training
Most of us that’s been around for a while has seen those spend more trust than they have and spend it to quickly. If you overspend the relationship it is most likely over. So build a trust fund to spend as needed or when you must.
The foundation for building trust with your slave is communication and honesty. It is also important that a slave know that her body is safe with you during play and you have the skills necessary to play wisely. Mistakes happen so credibility is important so that she does not loose confidence in your skills. She only grows if she trust you.
TRUST in the LIFESTYLE
Most dictionaries say something like trust is “showing or tending to have a belief in a person’s honesty or sincerity; not suspicious.” As a Dominant we do all kinds of suspicious behavior and can cause fear in a slave. We in the lifestyle push trust at times with the type of intense play and mind fuck games we do. But that is our accepted lifestyle. We do dominate and submit in this lifestyle. Limits are pushed and expanded. Not many forms of vanilla relationship trust involves such intense focus and belief. Because of that, it takes time to build. It can be quickly broken as well.
In many cases the lifestyle means a slave can be shared with other dom’s or he can have other slaves. Trust involves accepting you have a useful place in a poly relationship.
Self-trust is also important. You moved into this lifestyle because of inner feelings and believes. The development into a slave can be intense. Trust your needs and desires and know you will develop and grow in slavery.
So be honest (when not doing a mind fuck with your slave 🙂 ) and keep communication going. If you make a mistake, admit it and move on. Keep trust alive. Oh, a “mind fuck” is not lying to a slave; it’s a form of scene play for those that don’t know.