Punishment of a slave for bad behavior:
Punishment of a slave is a penalty used in BDSM slave training by a Master showing displeasure with unacceptable behavior. In the BDSM lifestyle, there is usually a distinction made between punishment and discipline.
B.E.S.T. slave training advocates the use of both in the training of a slave.
Discipline and Punishment of a slave during training:
Discipline training is used to teach proper behavior and obedience. Discipline is described as instruction and exercise; training, whether physical, mental or moral. Generally the time spent training your slave to kneel, stand, speak and so on is defined as discipline slave training. It is also training to adjust attitude. One of the uses is to teach and practice proper behavior.
Punishment is correcting a slave’s bad behavior. It’s a penalty imposed on the slave for wrongdoing. It’s used after the slave has displayed bad behavior to:
1) Demonstrate to the slave that her Master is displeased.
2) Show that the behavior was unacceptable and her actions have consequences.
3) Provide reinforcement for a change to proper behavior.
Slave punishment focuses on bad behavior, intentional or not: Because behavioral modification is significant; punishment can be administered to the slave even if the bad behavior is unintentional. However, the method and severity of punishment depends on the bad behavior and if it was intentional or unintentional.
Punishment of a slave aims to improve the slave’s behavior or remove completely bad behavior. The slave may not like the consequences that her Master applies, but she accepts them because they apply to her and are for her betterment. Punishment is NOT role play. It is to correct a real problem using real punishment.
UNDERSTAND : A slave must agree to accept punishment during training and grant her trainer the authority to punish her. It is not forced abuse. she gives informed consent to punishment for the purpose of helping to correct her behavior. It will not work in the long-run if not agreed to by both parties. The objective of punishment is not to cause physical harm or be a way of taking out anger against the slave but to correct behavior.
Slave Punishment for bad behavior does not always involve corporal punishment. Punishment is anything administered by the Master that is very uncomfortable to the slave for the purpose of changing behavior. It could be having the slave stand in the closet, go to bed early, restriction of privileges, ignoring her, caging, bondage, refusing to allow her to serve you for a period of time or many other forms.Example: (ping pong ball and egg timer) a ping pong ball can be used for both discipline and punishment, depending on how applied. A slave can be told to hold a ping pong ball to a wall with her nose for a period of time. She can be placed in various positions then the Master starts an egg timer and the slave must remain in that position until the egg timer alarms. She is then given a second position to hold, and the egg timer is reset. This can go as long as you wish; you can keep setting the timer and giving her new positions. Challenging positions can be used for punishment. Let your imagination be your guide. Many egg timers can be set for 30 minutes or more if you wish to make her hold a position that long.
Punishing a slave can be the taking away of privileges; loss of the use of a computer, car, or television.
Another slave punishment is to have her repeatedly write out a sentence on paper. This is helpful is he is not with his slave and wants to see a positive action taken by her before he gets home. He can tell her to write what she has done wrong or what she needs to do on paper several times and show him when he gets home. He can also sent her some place (another room) to write while he does something else.
In the bondage section of this website, I discuss some uses of bondage as discipline or slave or submissive punishment.
If the slave is a heavy masochist, then something other than corporal punishment might be warranted. It goes without saying that punishment is not intended to be fun or provide pleasure. A slave should not be allowed to misbehave to fulfill her masochist needs and never rewarded for bad behavior. Don’t let what you intend to be a punishment be a reinforcement for bad behavior. Being placed behind the couch in the living room or den for an afternoon can teach her a valuable lesson. If she makes a noise or disrupts you in any way, her time behind the couch can be extended. The use of physical bondage is not necessary, using mental bondage by instructing her to remain quite, still and out of site. In general, the more she loves pain, the less it should be routinely applied as punishment and the more care it takes in administering pain as punishment.
The slave should have full knowledge of what behavior is expected of her so she can properly serve. What is expected of her should be constant and clearly defined by her Master. This is why written rules, positions descriptions, and protocols are necessary. The importance of discipline training and communication cannot be understated in the overall training process.
As I have stated in other portions of this website, not all Masters believe in using written rules, guidelines, and protocols. That of course is their decision. It is my opinion that written rules helps provide a clear path for the slave and a stronger foundation for her change. I’ll admit it takes more time and effort, but I believe the effort is worth it.
Slave Punishment is a type of coercive power:
Coercive power is one of the 5 forms of interpersonal power a Master has over his slave (s).
Coercive power (authority) is imposing by the Master’s will, rules, and expected behavior upon his slave (s) by the use of punishment or simply the threat of its existence. Coercive power although important is not always the best and most effective form of power a Master has over his slave.
For more information on Interpersonal Power
Corporal Punishment in BDSM submission or slave Training:
Corporal punishment is defined in this section as a deliberate inflection of pain used in the correct of an adult slave’s misbehavior. The slave agrees as part of the correction process and healing processes that she will accept her punishment.
I divide corporal punishment into two categories; immediate and formal.
Immediate punishment is usually less intense and of a much shorter duration than formal punishment. It purposes is to immediately correct the slave for an infraction that is caused by a lack of attention to detail during training or to reinforce changes in automatic responses (habits), failure to maintain eyes down as stated in the rules.
I have often heard slaves or sub missives say that the worst punishment they could receive is the knowledge that their Master is displeased with their actions, and this is worse than any corporal punishment that he could administer to her.
I fully believe that a good slave or submissive will feel sorrowful for displeasing her Master, and this will provide motivation to correct her behavior, but I don’t believe that this sorrow is always enough to foster future correct behavior. This is especially true when training her to change normal daily behavior (habits and routines). Just telling her that she has made a mistake is not enough to insure change when the focus is on changing habits and routines. Punishment provides motivation to change.
Immediate slave punishment is useful where a change in habits and routine behavior is required. Two examples are when a slave does not say “Sir”, each time she is addressing her Master or maintaining “eyes down” in her Master’s presence. These are habits you want her to adopt and immediate punishment is effective when she slips during training. A behaviorist calls this stimuli-response type training instead of making an attempt to changing cognitive thinking.
Now, this is easier said than done. Some actions that the Master wants may require discipline training and time to correct. Most habits and routines require not only knowledge, but lots of practice before successfully changed.
If you are to live in a 24/7; Master/slave relationship; many new behaviors have to be ingrained into the slave. They have to become part of her regular daily routine. This is achieved by providing her with the knowledge of what you expect, setting goals, applying discipline and punishment, providing positive reinforcement for correct behavior and encouragement. Punishment is only one tool used in the BDSM lifestyle for slave training.
Formal Punishment of a slave:
Formal slave punishment is used there is a far more serious violations of the rules. It‘s not a result of a change in a habit but a conscious misbehavior or a misbehavior that a reasonable slave would be expected to know.
Examples are the intentional failure to disclose important information to her Master or failure to do a particular assignment in the allotted time (after receiving instructions). These are attitude problems that cause bad behaviors. This is also an example where a slave’s sorrow for displeasing her Master may not be enough to correct behavior. She was aware of her Master’s instructions and still failed to obey. She had full knowledge ahead of time that her Master would be displeased, and punishment was likely.
Very often, stating that slave punishment is a logical consequence of bad behavior is an over simplification of the problem. Yes, what the Master sees is bad behavior, but more than likely the bad behavior is a result of incorrect (faulty) thinking, failure to pay attention to detail or other mental lapses. We think, then we feel, then we act. In other words, it’s her thinking (attitude) that caused bad behavior. Therefore, only applying corporal punishment is not always the best action that a Master can take to correct the problem.
Examining and confronting the faulty thinking, before punishment, is an important part of the overall correction of behavior. If faulty thinking is addressed and corrected, behavior will automatically be changed. (Details on addressing faulty thinking are discussed in other sections of this website.)
Steps in Formal Punishment of a slave:
In most cases, formal corporal slave punishment should have several steps.
Step 1: After discovering the behavior that needs correcting, it’s often advisable to discuss with the slave what caused her bad behavior. What was she thinking? Why did she act that way? Why did she make that choice? How is the choice she made helpful in her slave training? Is she serious about her training?
The lecture/ discussion/scolding is an important phase of punishment. Make your point. Get admissions of guilt.
SHOWING AN ATTITUDE DURING SCOLDING OR LECTURE: The image above is an example when additional actions may be needed just because of her attitude before punishment. . Don’t allow her to take this rebellious stance or a stance of ignoring you when you are scolding or lecturing her before punishment. Watch her body actions. Demand attention and submission. The woman is showing rebellion not acceptance of her bad behavior. Scolding her has a purpose and you decide the purpose, not her. This woman in the picture indicates a disagreement with your scolding of her. I would approach this behavior directly and challenge it. If she is punished while displaying this attitude it would more then likely be ineffective because she has not accepted she was wrong or your authority to make the correction. Deal with it.
In my opinion, punishment for this behavior could be added to increase her overall punishment or you could do a separate punishment before getting to the purpose of the scolding.. Attitude adjustment and proper behavior are both part of correction. What are you accomplishing if you let her resist you in this way. It is still resistance and intended for you to see it as resistance.
In the lecture or scolding, the Master controls the conversation. You direct it to her behavior and what was wrong and why she is being punished. You make her answer questions. Make her think about why you are upset. Why she displeased you. If necessary take her back to the time and place and have her tell you her thinking. Don’t spend days on this but cover it well then move on to the next step.
You should also make your displeasure with her behavior and thinking known to her. Take time to insure she knows the depth of your displeasure.
Step 2: Then the slave should be sent off, by herself, to think about her wrong doing and the punishment that will surely come soon. Give her time to reflect on the lecture and her behavior along with the punishment that is to follow.
Step 3: She then should be called for and told to present herself in a punishment position. A short lecture (much shorter then the first one) should be given before punishment. Here, you can again tell her of your displeasure and what is expected of her in the future.
Step 4: Then comes the actual punishment. The slave should not be allowed to reach a frame of mind that would allow her to lessen the effect of the punishment (subspace or mental pain blocking techniques). She should be required to say “Thank you, Sir” after each stroke, and keep count of each stroke. If she shows signs of going into subspace or blocking the pain, force her out of that mental state, before continuing. Using a different instrument to punish her with than you would use for pleasure is advisable.
Step 5: Immediately after the punishment, the slave should be sent off, (to a corner) by herself, for a period of time to reflect on her punishment. After-care is not give right after punishment. You can hold her and encourage her later. Right after punishment let her feel it emotionally as punishment.
After completion of all five steps, you should reassure the slave that her payment for the wrong doing is over, but you expect correct behavior in the future. Do not keep harping on the bad behavior after punishing her. Completion of the 5 steps should be an ending point for her punishment.
Helpful hints in slave punishment:
Learned behaviors tend to become habits and, therefore, are regularly repeated when the opportunity arises. Because of this, it is particularly important that punishment be applied immediately after the first behavioral deviation occurs, or as soon as possible, rather than after numerous deviations have established undesirable behavioral patterns. The longer unacceptable behavior is allowed to continue, the harder it is to change that behavior.
Some consider altering behavior as having six steps that include:
1) Describing the undesired behavior to the slave.
2) Indicating to the slave why the behavior is undesirable.
3) Determining antecedents and reinforcements for the undesirable behavior.
4) Eliminating the cause of the undesirable behavior.
5) Getting the slave to make a commitment to change the behavior.
6) Providing positive reinforcement when the desired behavior occurs and withholding it or providing punishment when it does not occur.
Choosing the best reinforcement (positive or negative) for a slave is not always an easy task. To make it easier, here are some guidelines that are often used in business that can be applied to slave training.
1) You should make it Personal:
The reinforcement must reflect your personal style and must be given in a personal way. Not only, be personal but make it personal to your slave.
2) It must be Sincere:
It’s important that you mean what you say and are not joking or being dishonest.
3) Be Specific:
The slave must know exactly why she received a particular reinforcement. She has to know why she’s is being praised (or punished). Because behavior is clearly a complex and ongoing stream, the contingency between a behavior and the consequence may not be clear. Pinpoint the behavior that you require.
Reinforce your slave while she is doing what you want. The longer the time between the completion of bad behavior and the delivery of a reinforcing consequence, the less effective the reinforcement will be.
Use the 4:1 general rule or at least keep it in mind. This means that every time you apply a negative consequence, you should find at least four opportunities to reinforce desired behavior. By just observing people, you can learn a lot about which reinforcement is most suitable.
Punishment is about caring that your slave behaves in a way that best serves, obeys and pleases you. It is about allowing her to develop into the slave she has chosen to be; by being pleasing to her Master. If the punishment you use is not accomplishing this then it is pointless and should be changed to something else.
Let the punishment get your displeasure out of your system also, don’t relive it over and over. You will cause more harm then good. Punishment is a cleansing process. A new start after the correction.