Resistance and Reactance to slave training,     This is a guide to analysis this resistance to slave training or reactance to loss of freedom and a general look at anxiety due to change.  A slave may require punishment because she resistances change, but analysis as to why she resists is also needed. In addition, a Master’s encouragement during and after the change is essential to growth. There is almost always some resistance to slave training and a reactance to loss of freedom.

resistance and reactance to slave trainingUnderstanding these concepts are necessary for both master and slave. Resistance: (The concept of resistance to slave training and reactance to loss of freedom is mostly from mostly “Therapeutic Psychology” 3rd edition copyright 1977 L. M. Brammer & E. L. Shostrom}.

NOTE: Resistance to slave training and reactance to loss of freedom are often considered two different concepts, but reactance to a loss of freedom is actually a subset of overall resistance to slave training. Anxiety is key to both resistance to slave training and reactance to a loss of freedom.  This article first discusses Resistance to slave training followed by reactance to loss of freedom.

ASSUMPTIONS for this article:

Resistance to slave training  is a reaction to change due to anxiety.

1) Resistance to slave training  occurs when something or someone causes a threat to something of value.  The threat may be real or it may be just a perception.

2) This threat causes anxiety. Resistance to slave training  can occur where there is a genuine understanding of the change or where there is a real misunderstanding, or even almost total ignorance about it.

3) Resistance to slave training can effect behavior, emotions, self-image and thoughts.

This is not about “brat play” or any other form of BDSM play where resistance to authority is part os scene play.  . It is about real resistance to slave training due  to change.  The Master and slave are serious and this is not a game.


RESISTANCE to training or bdsm lifestyle:

Resistance to slave training is not a category of B.E.S.T. slave training but does deserve special notice to the trainer.  Resistance to slave training can often be handled as an interfering belief with REBT or B.E.S.T. slave training techniques.  The source of resistance to slave training is when the topic, expected behavior, situation or her Master are viewed as threatening.  Anxiety is present in any response to a threat and the slave feels compelled to defend herself against additional anxiety.

Resistance is a reaction to anxiety caused by the change and the threat felt from it.  It is not directly aimed at the Master.  The resistance to slave training is directed at change and how it makes her feel.

Resistance to training – source is anxiety:

A slave, like all humans, seeks homeostasis and equilibrium in her life. She wants stability and any change rocks that boat.  It is human nature to resist change.  A master needs to understand that, in most cases, a resistance to slave training is not personal or even directed at him. Instead,  Resistance is a human reaction to anxiety caused by a threat perceived from change.  In many cases, she may very well see that she needs to do what her master asked to deepen her slavery and even want to obey.  However, this knowledge and desire does not always reduce her anxiety of change and loss of freedom.

Resistance is classified as internal or external:

Internal resistance to slave training is an attempt by the slave to retreat from her Master’s efforts to explore and alter behavior and/or beliefs.  It is anxiety associated with a change in life status or attitude to her slave training.  The faster the slave is exposed to change the more resistance to slave training increases because her anxiety gets stronger faster as she feels overwhelmed.

Openness is essential in a Master/slave relationship.  A lack of openness causes stress when a Master attempts to explore internal feelings, and beliefs.  Because of the critical nature of openness in the relationship,  it should be strongly stressed to the slave early in the training process.  It is also necessary for the slave to realize that you accept her as she is.  Yes, you will alter her to serve, obey and please you, but you accept her and want her to feel she can reveal her thoughts and feelings to you.

It is a violation of her duty as a slave to keep her feelings to herself.  If she does open to you, then it is also a violation of your duty as a Master to act in a way that causes her stress for having the courage of opening up herself to you.  Don’t encourage her to open her thoughts and feeling to you, then turn around and use them against her.  Don’t hold them again her or You will destroy trust.

One form of internal resistances to slave training is called reactance. Reactance to a loss of freedom is discussed below in a separate section (Reactance to a loss of an important freedom).

External resistance to slave training can be caused by anxiety about being dependent or close to another person.  A slave submits to the will of her master and this can cause resistance.   It can develop when the Master goes faster than the slave feels she is capable of going; therefore, she resists his attempts.

Another source of resistance to slave training is a lack of faith in her Master or a lack of readiness to accept slavery.  The amount of time a Master requires for training his slave might also cause resistance to slave training.  She will need to change her schedule because of the time needed.  She may be tired and need to sleep which can cause its own form of resistance. Resistance to slave training can also be due to emotional reactions caused by past life experiences (flashbacks) that may seem overwhelming to the slave.

The value of resistance  to a Master during the training process:

The principle value of this resistance to slave training for a Master is that it gives an indication of how the slave is progressing in training.  After resistance is seen in the slave; her Master can ignore, reduce, or utilize it.  Resistance is a window into the slave’s defense structure.  You can learn a lot about a slave, and how to train her by simply observing what, when and how resistance to slave training plays out.  Communication and observing body language are important.

The expressions of resistance to slave training depends on the slave’s personality.  People express anxiety differently depending on personality.

Overcoming Resistance to training and modifying her behavior, emotions and thoughts:

Before the techniques described below work, a slave in training must want to change to meet her master’s needs.  She must want to serve, obey and please him.   she must have within her the desire to be enslaved.

Techniques for overcoming resistance to slave training:

1) Ignoring: But being aware of it and watching for increases.

This may be useful if you are not directly dealing with the issue at the present time.

2) Minor adaptations: Slowing down.

Allowing you slave to adjust easier by slowing the changes thrust upon her.  It is a method of reducing but not removing anxiety. It may cause less stress in the long run by allowing trust to grow, allowing her more time to analysis the changes and the threat it causes her, and your behavior.  A master needs to observe the reactions of his trainee when he is changing behavior rapidly.  Allowing her the time to  think and accept changes can be a great friend to the trainer.

3) Temporary diversion: Re-direction to less threatening areas and return at a later time.

This is another method of temporarily eliminating or reducing anxiety caused by change.  It simply gives a Master more time to prepare a trainee for change.  It also gives her more time to process the training.

A Master should not viewed himself as being weak if he stops this current training goals for a short period and re-directs training in an area that causes the trainee less anxiety.    Make the goal less demanding but generally on the same course but from a different direction.

 4) Direct manipulation:

A) Examination: Analysis the slave’s use of resistance to slave training by examining  and asking “how has the slave used resistance to her benefit in the past?”   Often anxiety grows into a tool used to “get your way” and cause others to back off.  It can be a learned defense.  Talk about the behavior used by the slave when the feelings of anxiety are present.

Humans react to change because they:

A) Fear losing something that believe has value.

B) Don’t understand the change and it will impact them.

C) Don’t see any value in changing or it is not logical to them.

D) Find it difficult to cope with the new behavior caused by the change (can’t cope).

COMMUNICATIONS about resistance to slave training and reactance to loss of freedom:

Show your slave the value in changing to your required behavior.  Change her attitude and behavior will follow. Often providing the slave with more knowledge about how the behavioral change will affect her and the relationship in a positive way helps overcome anxiety .

Show her the positive side of changing her beliefs and behavior.  Discuss ways to make the change easier in order to enable her to cope with the change.

Often the act of changing from one behavior to another is more stressful than the actual change.  Discuss the process of changing.  Offer encouragement and let her know you are pleased with her change any behavior, this will make additional changes easier.  slave training is in many ways build around encouragement.

B) Reflection: Upon her  feelings of resistance.  Tell the slave to tell you about her resistance and why she felt as she did and what past issues cause it.  As her what memories it brought back.

S. K Piderit (2000) believes that a definition of the term resistance must incorporate a broader scope. She states that “a review of past empirical research reveals three different emphases in conceptualizations of resistance: as a cognitive state, as an emotional state, and as a behavior” (Piderit, S.K. (2000, Oct).  Rethinking resistance and recognizing ambivalence: a multidimensional view of attitudes toward an organizational change. Academy of Management -794. A, 783).

Both internal and external resistance reduces as trust in her Master builds. Of course, building trust takes time and must be reinforced with positive examples.

In slave training,  a slave’s trust in her Master involves a belief that her master:

1) Has the knowledge and skills necessary to re-educate and re-socialize her, (he has the skills needed do slave training).

2) Will keep her safe.

3) Will accept ownership of her,  (no purpose in slave training without a positive outcome).

4) Will structure her service in a way that she feels useful and  (slave training is about enabling the slave to serve and please).

5) Has personal stability and integrity.

C) Threats followed by action if necessary to motivate:  This involves setting a goal as part of slave training.  Then clearly stating consequences for failing to meet the goals.  This can also mean punishment for not meeting the goals. .   Whatever the consequences she must know that they are real if she fails.

D) Direct confrontation or direct questioning:  This means you force your trainee to discuss the source of her resistance and discuss ways of reducing her anxiety.

 It is confronting the root cause.  It is not just behavioral change but examining emotions and thoughts.  You look at attitude,  fears,  feelings and desires.  The Master can use REBT and CHOICE THERAPY concepts here.  You can focus on showing her the logic of change or the illogical stance of resisting change if she wants to be a slave.

E) Overwhelming force: (Meaning that she knows she will not change her Master’s mind by resistance or reactance).

 He has issued an order and expects it obeyed.  He had made the choice of her behavior.  Her only choice is to change her behavior to that her Master wishes.  If she maintains her slavery,  she is helpless to change her behavior in the long run because her master controls it.

She is helpless to change her behavior therefore her attitude must change in order to reduce the mental conflict. The feeling of helplessness to change her own behavior is important in slave training.  she seeks peace and calmness in her life and if her behavior is owned and controlled then she must change her attitude to achieve it (see Cognitive Dissonance Theory below).   This only works if she feels that as a slave her master is empowered to make decisions and establish her behavior for her.

This requires that a master has already established his interpersonal forms of power, or the ways one person manages, trains and controls another. They are listed below.

NOTE: The term helplessness as used here means: Resistance and Reactance:

That in order to maintain her slavery or continue on the right path in her slave training and not displease her Master,  she is helpless to change her behavior.  Her Master determines her behavior.  It means that she has made a decision to allow her Master the right to make her behavioral choices for her.  He has made a choice of how he wishers her to behave therefore she is helpless to change her behavior and be a slave.  If she rejects his choice she is rejecting her her oath to allow him to own her choices and is acting outside her slavery.   If she rejects and uses her will she has failed as a slave there fore,  in the end, to remain a slave she must obey.

Reactance to a loss of an important freedom due to slave training:

Reactance to loss of freedom in slave training is a type of internal resistance that should be expected from a slave during training. Recognizing and overcoming reactance is important in slave training.

Reactance to loss of freedom in slave training occurs when the slave perceives a threat to her freedoms or and actual ” loss of a freedom” that is important to her.   This motivates her to take actions in an  attempt to restore that freedom.  The theory also associates the state of reactance with emotional stress, anxiety, resistance and struggle for the slave, and she is motivated to escape from these feelings.

Reactance to loss of freedom in slave training is not a resistance to slave training; to the time involved in training;  or even a resistance to her Masters efforts to train her, it is a resistance to a “loss of a freedom” and the emotional stress that this loss causes her.  she attempts to regain this freedom usually by an emotional reaction to the change. This is a point that is often misunderstood. It is a personal resistance to a loss of a freedom as opposed to a resistance to her Master.  However, her way of rebelling against the loss of freedom may be seen as resistance to her Master.

Restated, reactance is a resistance to a thing (loss of freedom) not a person.  A slave has a reactance to loosing control as opposed to resisting her Master.

 Example 1) If a slave has taken pride in choosing her own clothing to wear all her life and her Master now chooses her clothing for her, the resistance in not against her Master, it is again the loss of freedom.

 Example 2) If a slave has agreed to move in with her Master to become a 24/7 slave, she may, at the last minute, have a reactance to the loss of freedom and privacy she knows in coming. It is an internal conflict instead of a reaction against her Master.


Reactance to loss of freedom and a Master’s overwhelming force:

One of the major factors in overcoming reactance  to an important loss of freedom is for the slave to feel that no matter how she reacts to the “loss of freedom, ” her Master will not give in.  She is faced with an overwhelming force and her only option is to accept the “loss of freedom”.   Her behavior is controlled by her Master, therefore she must change her attitude about the “loss of freedom” in order to reduce the stress the reactance causes.

Overwhelming force means that in oder for her to remain a slave to her master she will obey.    It is not an absolute overwhelming force.  It applies to her remaining her master’s property.    if she flat out rejects slavery then there is no overwhelming force.    Overwhelming force is governed by her wanting to be owned by her master.

(see Cognitive Dissonance Theory below)(Brehm, J. (1966). “A Theory of Psychological Reactance” New York: Academic Press) and (Brehn, S. (1981). “Psychological Reactance:  A Theory of Freedom and Control”) Also additional information can be found at   Internal Enslavement for information on reactance to loss of freedom and slave training   This is good website for those interested in a slave’s reactance to loss of freedom.


The first phase is the activating step and the key feature of the Reactance Theory.
                                                          Phase 1) A slave perceives an “unfair” restriction on her behavior or loss of an important freedom. 

The key words are “unfair” and “important.”A slave will accept restrictions and loss of freedom if she feels that it is reasonable, equal, and just.  When the slave feels the restrictions are unfair, she doesn’t know why they are being applied, she thinks they are too tough, or too important, then her emotions may move to phase 2. 
Phase 2) The state of reactance is activated.

Reactance to loss of freedom can be very motivational to the slave. The slave in a state of reactance is emotional, single-minded, and can be somewhat irrational.  It arises because she has been wronged and she is not going to take it anymore. Reactance is important to understand because it has strong motivational properties and leads to the final phase.

                                                              Phase 3) The slave must act to remove the reactance.

The motivational qualities the slave has in the state of reactance are so strong that she must do something about it.  The reactance cannot be ignored or put aside by her Master.  In particular, the slave is motivated to either “right the wrong” or to get around the restriction. In other words, a slave with reactance will try to get the unfair restriction removed or they will try to subvert the restriction.

Another consequence of reactance at phase three is that the slave will tend to overvalue the action that was unfairly restricted.  In the study on detergents, housewives rated the phosphate-based detergent as a better cleaning product than the one without phosphates even though phosphates have no real chemical impact on cleaning.

When a slave exhibits reactance to loss of freedom due to her master’s to rules, laws, or any other restriction and/or when she feels a loss of an important freedom she will:

1) Value the restricted behavior more

2) Want to engage in the restricted behavior more

3) Engage in a different behavior as a reaction to the restriction and this behavior is usually negative

4) Have hostility toward her Master for the restriction.

Four Actions a Master can take when confronted with Reactance

1) Brehm said that there is a feeling of “helplessness”, when an important freedom is removed.  This can be overcome if the slave feels she is confronted by an “insurmountable superior power.”

2) In addition, according to Brehm, the resistance can most often be overcome by applying “very high force” which is defined as a powerful force, but a less than insurmountable superior power.  The amount if force that is necessary to use is dictated by how important the freedom is to the slave.  The more important it is, the more force necessary to overcome and/or place the slave into a feeling of helplessness.

3) REBT can be used as well to identify the interfering belief and applying the A-B-C-D-E steps to it. Click her for more details on REBT

4) “Choice Decision” Click her for more details on choicedecision.htm

Interpersonal Forms of Power:

Interpersonal forms of power, or the ways one person manages, trains and controls another.  (French, J. R. P., Raven, B. The bases of social power. In D. Cartwright and A. Zander. Group dynamics. New York: Harper & Row, 1959)

The interpersonal forms of power are:

1) Reward Power.

2) Coercive Power.

3) Legitimate Power.

4) Reverent Power.

5) Expert Power.

Cognitive Dissonance Theory:

The following explains how changing a slave’s behavior and resistance to change often collide in training and why a slave changes behavior.

Cognitive dissonance says “when a slave’s attitude conflicts with other personal beliefs or the behavior her Master requires, it causes a mental discomfort (conflict and or resistance).  This motivates her to change either her attitude or behavior to reduce dissonance.”

A Master controls the slave’s behavior; her attitude must be changed in order to reduce the mental conflict.  She is “helpless” to change her behavior because it is determined by her Master.  She has given her Master the “legitimate power” to control her behavior leaving her the only option of changing her attitude. However, resistance to change is to be expected.

The term “helpless” means that she is helpless to change her behavior and still maintain her slavery (upholding the contract with her Master and pleasing him).  Yes, she could change her behavior to one that is not what her Master’s wishes, but that would be outside of her slavery.

Her behavior is determined by her Master and her attitude changes to reflect that behavior, if

1) A Master’s “legitimate power” is well established and strong.

2) The slave believes her Master has the skills necessary to train her (expert power).

3) She has a sense or desires a sense of belonging to her Master (reverent power).

A good reference book to resistance to slave training  

Pages of interest on this site and page Resistance and Reactance.

Punishment of a slave in training 

Consequences of Bad Behavior of a slave in training