The Emotional slave:
The slave’s emotional response to slave training (emotions & sensations) is one of the four key areas of this B.E.S.T. slave training guide. As in all aspects of B.E.S.T. we are discussing consensual change. This is simple, she must be happy to be your slave for it to work. Therefore, she must accept that this is what she wants in her personal life and consent to slavery of her on free will.
The ability to display a full range of emotions indicates a high social interest. The emotional reactions of a slave girl can aid or detract from her training and development. A slave should strive to become free of defensive and deceptive emotions. A master needs to focus on aligning emotions & sensations to her new slavery. Emotional reactions to slave training are to be expected and can be managed.
In slave training and a BDSM lifestyle relationship, in general, a slave’s emotional reaction to slave training (emotions & sensations) in an essential element. The way a slave, obeys, serves, and pleases her Master is directly affected by her emotions. A Master must be continually aware during intense training of his slave emotional response to slave training.
A slave trainees emotional reactions are a window into her thinking. If you get a negative reaction then you many need to examine the thinking behind it. During training a master should pay close attention to anger and anxiety to insure she is in a state of mind that enables learning. Anger, anxiety, fear or negative reactions can cause you to stop and explain what and why you are doing a training step or to alter the training. If the trainee is emotionally happy she learns better and faster and is a better slave.
In this light, force against her will and it emotional reaction on the trainee is a pointless method of training. Abuse creates negative thought which in return creates negative emotions. Besides the fact that abuse is illegal, in by opinion it would do more harm then good in training a slave. You want a slave to want to be your slave. Abuse does not make her want slavey.
If she seems unwilling to complete a training step you believe should be completed before she is your slave then you need to take the time and energy to understand her objection. You then address the objection (thinking and emotions) with reason.
Emotions & Motivation, Emotional reaction to slave training
Emotions constitute the primary motivational system of humans. Each of the primary emotions (joy, interest, surprise, fear, anger, distress, contempt, disgust, and shame) supply their own unique kind of motivating information (Tomkins’ theory of affect described by Magai and Hunziker (1993, p. 261).
Emotions are a significant part of everyone’s inner lives. They range from primitive reflexes independent of thoughts to a complex cognitive assessment of the current situation. Thus, emotions determine if we are happy or unhappy. They can be reflex actions based on past learning or well thought out.
Prior learned core thoughts about events cause the emotional reaction we feel. What we think (perceives and value) about an event causes the corresponding emotional response to it.
Think – Feel – React in that order:
Humans first think, then they feel, then they act. Normally, what we think about an event is based upon past experiences related to like or similar events.
The thought is dividing into two parts before we apply an emotion to it. First we perceive it, and then we value the information. After that, we apply an emotion based upon this perception and value. Therefore, deep roots past life experiences as well as current events create the emotional reactions to slave training. It is more than just reacting to current slave training.
Emotional reaction to slave training and how it’s expressed:
Below is listed several ways that emotions are expressed (emotional reactions in slave training):
Act on feelings:
Crying when sad, communicate (in body language) her interest when attracted to someone. (These same behaviors–shouting, crying and attracting–influence her feelings too.)
Physiological reactions when feeling something:
Blushing when embarrassed, having high blood pressure when anxious, sexual arousal when attracted. Actually psychologists do not yet know whether arousal precedes, accompanies, or follows an emotional reaction (Weiner, 1980).
Suppress the feelings and deny being upset or angry:
Quite often people who deny their emotions think they are healthy and well adjusted, but they tend to have high blood pressure, high heart rates, an immune deficiency, high incidences of cancer (Temoshok, 1992), difficulty sleeping, and lots of aches and pains.
Change the situation:
Shout out orders like a drill sergeant when things go wrong or become charming to attract and influence someone. Note: yelling “shut up” at someone implies, but doesn’t directly express your feeling, “I’m angry at you.”
One feeling to deny or conceal another: criticism may hide attraction, crying may occur when she is mad, love may hide scared dependency or she may have one feeling in response to another feeling.
Blame others rather than assuming responsibility for your own feelings:
“You are a selfish, mean person” instead of “I feel very hurt,” “You are a lazy slob” instead of “I feel furious when you are so sloppy,” “You are arrogant” instead of “I’m afraid you will not like me.” Remember, each person is responsible for their own feelings. No one else is responsible. In general, no one can make a person feel any way; it is usually your choice (although some emotions are impossible to control–like a startle reaction or grief following the loss of a loved one). In short, you can change how you feel about an event.
A slave may not be aware of the actual nature of her emotions, but they can still have an effect on her life and training. She may have subconscious emotional reactions to slave training that are unaware to her.
Share your feelings with others. This involves many skills: self-disclosure, “I” statements, social skills, assertiveness, self-confidence, etc. Telling your story, as in therapy, self-help groups, or with friends, is usually healthy (as long as you share your emotions and do not just stick to the objective facts and as long as the listeners are supportive).
Use your feelings as a barometer of your relationships with others and your self-acceptance. Negative, unwanted feelings are a sign that something needs to be changed.
Goal of emotional training for a slave:
The major goal in emotional training is to align thought and emotions that will project a positive self-image of her slavery and provide motivation for proper behavior. A side product of changing emotions is an emotional reaction to slave training.
Emotional Privacy of a slave:
Emotional privacy should not be allowed. A slave’s emotional reactions or moods can never be private from her Master, and she has no right of privacy related to her inner feelings. During training, it is often necessary that emotions be changed to reflect her slavery. A slave should be asked often what she is feeling in order for her to become accustomed to revealing her feelings to her Master. Often knowing the slaves feelings, is a huge aid in training.
A feeling of helplessness in hiding emotions from her Master is necessary. A Master must explain the importance of never being able to hide emotions and sensation. A slave should know that she has to be completely open to discussing her emotions with her Master, and she reveals her feelings and thoughts to her Master more than to the closest friend she has ever known.
This openness in revealing emotions are often more difficult for her than behavioral modifications. People have private thoughts and fantasies that provide a view of their inner private logic. The thoughts must be shared with your Master. A slave has no privacy from her Master. Sharing is mandatory.
Note: Not normally considered a part of behavioral or cognitive techniques is the effect of the subconscious mind on emotions. Behavioral and cognitive theories deal with only the conscious processes. Hypnosis, if properly understood and administered, can deal with underlying past issues buried in the subconscious mind. Regression techniques are used for this purpose. This, at times, can be a key area that must be explored for more rapid and efficient changes of emotions and core thinking.
Techniques for Altering slave emotions in slave training:
Anger-Expression (this technique can be expanded to other areas besides anger) -explaining feelings of resistance or reactance.
Anxiety-Management Training – think about and bring on unwanted feelings, then concentrate on reducing the feeling.
Hypnosis – direct suggestions and regression.
Feeling-Identification and analysis – Clarification of feelings by interpretations or open
discussion (hypnosis can also be used)
Positive reinforcement – praise, recognition and encouragement.
Success at completing goals.
Some emotions that should be addressed are anger, envy, jealousy, and sadness.
A slave’s sensations during training:
Sensations are what the body feels with the five senses: touch, taste, smell, sight, and hearing. Being aware of the sensations displayed by your slave can lead to insight into her emotions. Sensations are often the body’s reaction to emotions and can be generated in the form of pain, nervousness or headaches.
The Master may find it advisable to give his slave sensations training. He would do this to increase particular sensations or allow him to control then with commands.
Examples of techniques used to control or change sensations:
Focusing – examining thoughts and feelings; then expressing them.
Hypnosis or Self-Hypnosis – to reduce stress Relaxation training
Sensate focus training – Increasing sexual sensation feelings by focusing and following
her Master’s instructions
Threshold training – training to hold orgasms
Sensations that should be addressed are headaches, tension and being unable to relax.
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