REPUBLISHED FROM THE OLD INTRODUCTION AND OVERVIEW OF B.E.S.T. slave Training webpage: (B.E.S.T. is a consensual relationship agreed to by all parties involved. It is not forced on individuals against their will. It is intended to meet the standard of safe, sane and consensual that are clearly defined in the lifestyle and accepted worldwide)
This was an archived file and was part of an earlier version of B.E.S.T. slave training website. It’s included here as a history file in order to help me fight plagiarism because so many have tried to copy it that I need to show google proof it is my original content. It may be published in a better format later. This was first published in 2004 and is protected by a copyright.
1) Introduction and Quick Overview of B.E.S.T. slave Training. This website contains many articles related to the training of a slave. It is intended to provide information to both those new to the lifestyle and those with experience as well. It should be said, up front, that this website covers slave training, not submissive training. Many of the principles included in slave training are the same or similar to techniques used in the training of a submissive, however there a number of differences between the two. Many of these differences are discussed within the website.
2) This site also is written in the form of a Male (Master) and female (slave). It is written in this style because it is the type of a BDSM relationship that I have some knowledge about. I believe that almost all of the material within this website can also apply to a Mistress/slave or a same sex Dominant/slave relationship, however I can’t speak with first hand knowledge to this assumption. Therefore, I present this material in a form that I know and hope it can be adapted to all other styles and types of Dominant/slave relationships with the BDSM community. As with all other BDSM lifestyle material that is presented on the web, it has to be studied and then adapted to your own personal training program.
3) This website is intended to offer suggestions on the training of a slave for long-term service to her Master. It is not a slave training manual, the focus is on the concepts and not the details of training. However, due to popular request, some training techniques are discussed in more detail under the sections; slave Training Techniques and Effective slave Management.
4) The concept of B.E.S.T. slave Training is that the whole being of a slave is subject to training and must be included in the Master’s training program in order for her to be properly trained. Behavioral training alone is not enough to train a slave; her emotions, self-image and thoughts must also be part of the training process. On this website, time is spent examining each of these areas and offering ideas on how to train the whole being.
5) In addition, a Master is responsible for setting training goals and reinforcing the motivations to complete the goals. Before he can properly training a slave, he must understand himself and what he wants from a slave. A Master should have a well defined concept of slavery and training in order to properly train her.
6) Each slave is considered unique and requires different methods and focuses to correctly train. There is no one set of training methods that are best for every slave. The best training method looks at each slave and prepares a training program for her.
7) A slave becomes a slave ONLY through the efforts of her Master. There is no quick fix or short cuts in training a slave. she has to be shown what her Master expects of her and she should be given a clear path to follow. A slave must receive proper guidance and direction, discipline training, praise for correctly following instructions and yes, punishment at times. The best slaves are the ones that have been clearly shown, by their Masters, how they expects the slaves to serve them. A slave can’t train herself.
8) Trust and communication are KEY to training. Trust is earned by both Master and slave. Time is an important element in trust because it develops step by step as training progresses. The slave deserves to know what her Master expects of her and how he intend to train her. The slave must be open with her trainer and not withhold secrets. A lack of openness is a major cause of failure in a lifestyle relationship. If a submissive is unwilling to open up her emotions and inner thoughts to her Master, then she is not ready for training.
9) Slavery requires the slave to give her freedoms to her Master. She is her Master’s property. In short, she is owned by her Master, but has no ownership of him. Serving, pleasing and obeying are the foundations of slavery. A slave is no longer independent from her Master or his will. She is subject to whatever control he wishes to exert over her.
10) This website covers many different subjects, including B.E.S.T. slave Training theory and principles, resistance to training, hypnosis in slave training, helpful articles for slaves, punishment, rope bondage, training techniques, slave management, and how to evaluate the slaves progress.
OVERVIEW of B.E.S.T. slave Training Theory & Principles:
The remainder of this page is a quick overview of the B.E.S.T. slave training theory. A detailed look at the theory can be found in the Theory and Principles sections of this website.
B.E.S.T. slave training is based on the teaching of Alfred Adler. I adapted B.E.S.T. slave training from several modern psychological theories that use, in part, Adler’s theory as a foundation. (The theories are all tied together in other sections on the website).
B.E.S.T. is an acronym for Behavior, Emotions, Self-image and Thoughts. (Which is also an adaptation of multimodal therapy for slave training).
Basic Concepts of B.E.S.T. slave training:
12) B. E. S. T. slave training (B.E.S.T.) views slave training as a re-education and reorientation process that molds the slave to fit her Master’s needs. During training, the Master sets Goals for his slave and motivations have to be fostered to accomplish them. None of these goals can be accomplished without trust and communication.
13) Goals are of primary importance in the training process and B.E.S.T. assumes that all behavior is goal directed. It is also assumed that the slave will adopt the goals of her Master and become motivated to achieve them. One of the primary motivations of a slave is to become pleasing to her Master and serve him better.
14) The re-education and reorientation process is accomplished by the Master continuously considering four areas. These areas are Behavior, Emotions, Self-Image and Thoughts. Each area is given equal standing in the overall training of a slave. B.E.S.T. assumes that “first we think, then the feel then we act” instead of a theory that says that if we change behavior then thinking and feeling will follow.
15) Each trainee is unique; therefore no one set of techniques will work for all.
16) B.E.S.T. assumes that a Master not only looks at all four of the areas at once; he also looks at each slave as a separate individual to be trained. He is constantly determining proper training techniques that take into account her:
A) Current behavior.
C) Emotional state.
D) Emotional reactions.
E) Present thought process.
F) Conscious and subconscious events that have lead to the current thought process.
Open and honest communication is of critical importance in this process:
17) Then, he determines what behavioral, emotional, and cognitive steps that are needed in her training in order to reach his goal. He then develops training techniques for each area. These steps are geared to change each area or only the areas that need attention.
18) B.E.S.T. is designed around much more than just behavioral modification. However, behavioral training can’t be ignored with any trainee. Often acting “as if” during training is a way of reinforcing the total training and, over time, the “as if” becomes reality. During the training process, the Master establishes his ownership of the slave’s space, privacy, time, physical actions, and interpersonal relationships.
19) B.E.S.T. assumes that each trainee, at some point, makes a “choice decision.” By that I mean, B.E.S.T. assumes that each slave will at some point in training decide to allow her Master the authority to make choices for her. She decides that her choices now belong to her Master and her choice is to obey.
20) This “choice decision” is not reached with most slaves by behavioral modification alone. It requires a change is the slave’s private logic. Private logic is the way we see ourselves, others, and life and is our personal philosophy that our lifestyle is based on. It is our “inter most” beliefs that affect higher level thinking, emotions and behavior. Private logic is not changed by behavioral modification alone.
21) A trainee becomes a slave when, in her private logic, she becomes her Master’s property, owned by him, serving and pleasing him. Her lifestyle includes a personal philosophy of being owned by her Master.
22) B.E.S.T., in reality, provides no new method of training that has not been used by some Masters for a long time. It merely provides a systematic way of looking at what we already do. In each training event that occurs, the Master can use B.E.S.T. to determine what direction that training will take.
23) I don’t assume that B.E.S.T. is the only method of slave training. If fact, two other methods are discussed within; Actualization Theory and Social Learning Theory. I also don’t believe that it is necessary for every Master to reduce a training style to paper, but I do think he should have an overall concept of what he intends to accomplish and how to accomplish it. I also don’t believe that B.E.S.T. slave training is the best theory for every Master. There are many views and theories related to personality and training in the field of psychology. A Master should find a view that closely reflects his own personal beliefs. Each theory has its own unique way of expressing life, personality, training and psychology.
24) B.E.S.T. slave training makes the following assumption:
25) Humans are social beings and want to “fit in” a social setting. A human’s primary motivation is belonging. A Master/slave relationship is a social relationship and establishing a feeling of belonging is critical for successful training.
26) Our private logic (core beliefs) determines the way we see ourselves and it also determines the lifestyle we live. Therefore, a slave’s private logic is a necessary element of training. She becomes his slave when she accepts that she is owned by her Master and it becomes part of her lifestyle.
27) All behavior is goal directed. Therefore, goals need to be established in slave training. In addition, motivation to accomplish the goals cannot be ignored.
28) Training is a re-education and reorientation process. A slave is trained and molded to fit her Master’s needs.
29) Individuals are striving for significance and superiority. All striving is motivated by attempts to compensate for feelings of inferiority. (Accepting defeat and inferiority feeling can have negative effects) In other words, goals are set in order to improve the future and we are motivated to reach goals that make us better than we are at the present.
30) slave training can only be successful if the slave accepts the goals that are designed by her Master for her development and she is motivated to become a slave that is pleasing to him.
31) A submissive becomes a slave when she makes a “choice decision” to allow her Master to make choices for her and her choice becomes obeying. Therefore, one of the major goals in slave training is to reach a point where she makes this “choice decision.”
32) A slave’s behavior, emotions, self-image and thoughts are all considered areas there training may be necessary.
Who is B.E.S.T. slave Training designed for:
33) This is a training program for a Master/slave relationship, not a Dominant/submissive relationship. It is assumed that training will result in the slave granting her freedom of choice to her Master. This is different than a Dominant/submissive relationship where the submissive retains her choices or sets the limits of her submission. If the relationship is a Dominant/submissive relationship, this training style would be of little value.
34) I am NOT implying that a Dominant/submissive relationship is “bad” or undesirable. It’s a matter of personal choice as to which type relationship the two parties want. There is no right or wrong relationship style and nothing written within this website is intended to imply otherwise. However the focus of this website is on a Master/slave relationship.
Major Sources for B.E.S.T. slave Training:
Much of the material detailed in B.E.S.T. slave training is adapted from:
A Primer of Adlerian Psychology: The Analytic – Behavioral – Cognitive Psychology of Alfred Adler by H. Mosak and M. Maniacci, copyright 1999, published by Brunner/Mazel, Philadelphia, PA.
Adlerian Counseling: A Practitioner’s Approach 4th edition. By T. J. Sweeney, PhD, copyright 1998, published by Accelerated Development, Philadelphia, PA.
The Practice of Multimodal Therapy: Systematic, Comprehensive, and Effective psychotherapy By A. A. Lazarus, copyright 1989, published by The Johns Hopkins University Press, Baltimore Me.
Theory and Practice of Counseling and Psychotherapy 6th edition by G. Corey, copyright 2001, published by Wadsworth/Thomson Learning, Belmont, CA.
Reality Therapy In Action by W. Glaser, M.D, copyright 2000, published by HarperCollins Publishers, New York, NY.
Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy: A therapist Guide by A. Ellis, PhD & C. MacLaren, M.S.W. copyright 1998, published by Impact Publishers, Atascadero, CA.
Social Psychology, Fourth addition by H. Michener & J. Delamater, copyright 1999, Published by Harcourt Brace College Publishers, Orlando, FL.
Multimodal therapy (BASIC ID), Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy and Reality therapy are woven into this theory.