A master’s respon­si­bil­ity in slave train­ing and the B.D.S.M. Lifestyle: You are respon­si­ble for being an hon­or­able Mas­ter that your slave and

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oth­ers can depend on.  That means that you are account­able for your behav­ior.  This allows your slave (s) to drop all guards and trust you with­out fear.

You must know your duties and be will­ing to takes the steps nec­es­sary to learn what safe actions you must fol­low, cor­rectly man­age your slave’s train­ing and then be account­able for any prob­lems or mishaps as well as tak­ing credit for any successes.

Defi­na­tion of respon­si­bilty per:  http://www.merriam-webster.com

1: the qual­ity or state of being reson­si­ble as

 a : moral, legal, or men­tal accountability

 b : trustworthiness

2: some­thing for which one is respon­bible : bur­den <has neglected his responsibilities>

Safety in slave train­ing and the B.D.S.M. lifestyle:

First a Mas­ter is respon­si­ble for the safety of his slave in train­ing both phys­i­cally and emo­tion­ally.  Train­ing a slave to serve, obey and please you is not caus­ing her to be a men­tal or phys­i­cal wreck.  Yes you push her in slave train­ing but always with the pur­pose of strength­en­ing her slavery.

In addi­tion a Mas­ter is respon­si­ble for the safety of any play part­ner (not his slave) and holds some respon­si­bil­ity for unsafe acts he wit­nesses by those act­ing irre­spon­si­ble  or untrained.  Never assume every­one uses rea­son­able care in bdsm play or slave train­ing.  They don’t.

A Mas­ter is respon­si­ble to insure his play is safe, sane, and con­sen­sual.  In play (with a play part­ner not his slave) he has no author­ity beyond what is agreed to by both par­ties. Most likely she will want a safe-word if she is a play part­ner  (not a slave) and it is your duty to honor it.  When play­ing with his slave, a Mas­ter is still respon­bible for her health and safety, period.

Being safe can mean you don’t take actions that will destroy her job, friend­ships or fam­ily rela­tion­ships. Yes, there are times when a Mas­ter can and should step in but the actions need to be prac­ti­cal and with good cause.  These action should improve self-image and esteem not destroy it.

Be Con­sis­tent as a Master:

In life it’s much eas­ier to trust some­one that is sta­ble and con­sis­tent in behav­ior.  A slave wants to learn how to serve, obey and please her Mas­ter.  It is very con­fus­ing to her and she is unable to let go to her core if a Mas­ter is not con­sis­tent in his behav­ior. If you estab­lish a rule for her to fol­low then it should not change with­out notice. She has no way of know­ing how to serve you if you don’t tell her if you change rules.  This may sound like com­mon sense but I have seen this basic rule of con­sis­tency bro­ken or not under­stood many a time.   Do you really give her a chance to trust you with her training?

Now there is noth­ing wrong with chang­ing rules or a slaves behav­ior if you believe another behav­ior is bet­ter but make the change clear to her.

Real­is­tic Plans & Expectations:

The train­ing goals must be real­is­tic and obtain­able for a slave. Unre­al­is­tic goals does not build trust or moti­va­tion her to serve you. When you live the lifestyle 24/7 it is not a fairy­tale and must be adapted around the real­ity of liv­ing life in and around the vanilla world.

Respon­si­bil­ity to the B.D.S.M. Community:

A Mas­ter also has a respon­si­bil­ity to the gen­eral B.D.S.M. Comm­nity to speak out and pro­mote safe and sane prac­tices.  This is part of the lifestyle social respon­si­bil­ity.   This may become very impor­tant now with the new inter­est in the lifestyle because of the book “fifty Shades of Grey.”  

This new book will bring out many and most will have lit­tle or no expe­ri­ence in the lifestyle.  It is a time when we as a group  can make pos­i­tive progress or suf­fer major set­backs.   It’s up to those with expe­ri­ence to make them­selves avail­able to direct both the new Dom­i­nant and sub­mis­sive into the new world of B.D.S.M.   Now that does not mean you want to rush to be the first to meet, beat and for­get the new sub.