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Power of Attorney, living wills & wills for a slave

January 31, 2013 in Slave Training by Cuffsmaster

Power of Attor­ney and liv­ing will for a slave.   These are not sub­jects that many want to think about in a Master/slave rela­tion­ship.  But being a good Mas­ter means you con­sider and han­dle such issues.   The slave girl is your respon­si­bil­ity and this is part of proper slave man­age­ment & care.

The power of attor­neys and will are more impor­tant for a 24/7 slave than some­one you occa­sion­ally see.  In fact, I would not rec­om­mend them if you don’t live with her.

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slave’s will and POA

Remem­ber that legal rights are not laid out in a Master/slave con­tract. A slave con­tract is NOT legally bind­ing only morally bind­ing between the par­ties.  You must have proper legal doc­u­ments to exer­cise legal rights over her affairs. Don’t believe a slave con­tract will acts as a will or power of attor­ney,  it will not.   I would not rec­om­mend that you try to include a power of attor­ney or will in your slave con­tract.  A power of attor­ney should be a sep­a­rate doc­u­ment unclouded with the con­di­tions set forth in a usual slave con­tract.  Keep it sim­ple and easy for a court to enforce if needed.    If you have to get the power of attor­ney enforced by a Court keep it sim­ple and near what the Court is use to see­ing and enforc­ing.   Why com­pli­cate it for your­self or the Court?   When you need it enforced you prob­a­bly don’t have time to dis­cuss unre­lated issues in the slave con­tract.  Don’t take a chance on void­ing the power of attor­ney. liv­ing will or will by includ­ing them in an oth­er­wise unen­force­able doc­u­ment.  Keep them separate.

Power of Attor­ney, liv­ing will & Will grant­ing a Mas­ter the legal author­ity to make deci­sions for his slave:

Durable and med­ical power of attor­neys (POA)

There are two types of power of attor­ney that should be con­sid­ered for a slave to sign grant­ing her mas­ter legal author­ity. The 1) durable power of attor­ney and the 2) power to han­dle med­ical issues.

 

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Jealousy when Master adding second slave to family — Polyamory

September 29, 2012 in Slave Training by Cuffsmaster

Jeal­ousy and adding a sec­ond slave to the poly fam­ily.  Jeal­ousy is the major killer of the dream of a polyamorous rela­tion­ship.  Because another slave

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is present and seen inter­act­ing with her mas­ter, jeal­ousy will go seri­ously awry if not checked.  It’s the slave’s imag­i­na­tion & fears instead of rea­son & facts caus­ing issues.   It’s often caused by a Master’s lack of pre­plan­ning to pre­pare his trainee.   How­ever some­times jeal­ousy is almost ingrained and a deeper analy­sis using The B.E.S.T. slave train­ing the­ory will facil­i­tate  over­com­ing it.

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Using hypnosis in slave training. A slave’s self-communication & hypnotic slave training

August 1, 2012 in Hypnosis, Slave Training by Cuffsmaster

Hyp­notic slave train­ing and the 5 senses in BDSM slave train­ing. Con­tin­u­ing from the smell post: I should also say that even though I said hypnosis and slave trainingthat “sight is king” of the 5 senses (see, hear smell, taste feel) that may not be true in hyp­no­sis or hyp­notic slave train­ing. That depends on the indi­vid­ual slave.  Sight is king when it comes to the out­side world com­mu­ni­cat­ing with you but not always true with self-communication.  Self-communication is how you think and express and feel things in your mind.

Hyp­notic slave train­ing.  How to use a slave’s own inter­nal method of com­mu­ni­ca­tion in hypnosis

Dif­fer­ent humans imag­ine with dif­fer­ent pri­mary senses. The pri­mary imag­i­na­tion method of imag­i­na­tion is “sight” for the major­ity of us but a huge num­ber of us use “sound” or “feel.” Often the pri­mary sense used to self-communicate can be dis­cov­ered sim­ply by pay­ing atten­tion to how a slave expresses her on com­mu­ni­ca­tion with self. Exam­ples: A slave may say to you: “I see what you are say­ing” or “I feel you are right” or “I hear what you’re say­ing.” Repeat­edly pay­ing atten­tion to how she expresses self-communication can tell you how she self-communicates with her sub­con­scious mind.

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Dominant male body odor attracts females says study — just saying maybe slave training too?

July 29, 2012 in News, Slave Training by Cuffsmaster

The arti­cle from Biol­ogy Let­ter fol­lows and I added the slave train­ing and bdsm lifestyle thoughts afterwards.

Women’s pref­er­ence for dom­i­nant male odour: effects of men­strual cycle and rela­tion­ship status

Body odour may pro­vide sig­nif­i­cant cues about a poten­tial sex­ual partner’s genetic qual­ity, repro­duc­tive sta­tus and health. In ani­mals, a key trait in a female’s choice of sex­ual part­ner is male dom­i­nance but, to date, this has not been exam­ined in humans. Here, we show that women in the fer­tile phase of their cycle pre­fer body odour of males who score high on a questionnaire-based dom­i­nance scale (inter­na­tional per­son­al­ity items pool). In accor­dance with the the­ory of mixed mat­ing strate­gies, this pref­er­ence varies with rela­tion­ship sta­tus, being much stronger in fer­tile women in sta­ble rela­tion­ships than in fer­tile sin­gle women

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BDSM Scene Play Negotiations and slave training

July 24, 2012 in BDSM by Cuffsmaster

BDSM scene play nego­ti­a­tions, nego­ti­a­tions before start­ing a Dominant/submissive rela­tion­ship and slave train­ing.  The stan­dard BDSM scene play nego­ti­a­tions or Dominant/submissive con­tract nego­ti­a­tions before the start of a rela­tion­ship don’t really apply to a Master/slave rela­tion­ship.  At least, not in the way BDSM scene play nego­ti­a­tions are nor­mally expressed.

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B.D.S.M. scene play

First lets look at what B.D.S.M. scene play nego­ti­a­tions are all about.

Typ­i­cally two types of nego­ti­a­tions are dis­cusssed on BDSM lifestyle websites:

1) B.D.S.M. scene play Nego­ti­a­tions (meet­ing for play):

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Focus of the B.E.S.T. slave training website

July 14, 2012 in Slave Training by Cuffsmaster

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This web­site will focus on the spe­cial­ized  topic of a master/slave rela­tion­ship and slave train­ing there­fore the posts and replies to forum ques­tions will be answered with this con­cept at the cen­ter.  Here we talk about what we believe.

In oth­er­words it’s assumed that Mas­ters and slaves are the mem­bers or those wish­ing to be Master’s or slaves joined to learn.    We will not change to a more geneal dis­cus­sion for­mat.  B.E.S.T. is about slave train­ing and that will remain the focus. There is no need to express post or answers to ques­tions in a way that does not reflected a Master/slave rela­tion­ship or a slave being trained for long-term slavery.

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The Ideal Master/Owner of a slave

June 11, 2012 in B.E.S.T. slave training - General, for admin only by mb

An arti­cle about the mas­ter or owner in the bdsm lifestyle and  slave train­ing. Master/owner of a slave

The Ideal Master/Owner
an arti­cle writ­ten by mb
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The Ideal Master/Owner and slave trainer in the BDSM Lifestyle

I read the arti­cle on ‘The Per­fect Slave with great interest.

bdsm lifestyle - slave training - Master/owner training a slaveHow­ever, since BDSM is con­sen­sual, masters/owners must work to keep their prop­erty happy. It is not enough to train a slave accord­ing to his or her wont; the slave/property’s needs and desires must be taken into account.

1. The ideal mas­ter is one who is inter­ested in learn­ing the psy­chol­ogy of his prop­erty. He (we’ll use ‘he’ because of the dynam­ics of this site) wants to under­stand how his prop­erty thinks; not just about how that per­son thinks about slav­ery and submission, but about pretty much any­thing that they share. This is impor­tant if the mas­ter wants to have full con­trol over his prop­erty, since if the slave’s thought process is in any way a mys­tery, those thoughts can­not be under his con­trol. Some­times a slave might not inten­tion­ally hide infor­ma­tion from the dom­i­nant but still be unable to artic­u­late some­thing that seems obvi­ous or triv­ial. Under­stand­ing the slave fully, through obser­va­tion, inter­ro­ga­tion, and prior knowl­edge will makes the slave’s motives in all things crys­tal clear.

2. The ideal mas­ter is well-read in a vari­ety of sub­jects and has a quest­ing curi­ous mind. How else can he teach his slave new things or raise the bar of expec­ta­tions if he him­self can­not lead by exam­ple? This will also keep bore­dom set­ting in for the slave over the long term, as they learn new things together.

3. The ideal mas­ter has a sense of humor. He should be able to see the absur­dity in many sit­u­a­tions, includ­ing the master/slave rela­tion­ship itself. It is no longer pos­si­ble to legally own peo­ple in the US, and ante­bel­lum slav­ery was a hor­ri­ble thing that destroyed fam­i­lies and souls. With­out a sense of humor, it is easy for a mas­ter to become con­vinced that his own­er­ship is both real and immutable, which can lead to emo­tional and even phys­i­cal abuse.

4. The ideal mas­ter is capa­ble of flex­i­bil­ity. He under­stands that in order for a rela­tion­ship to grow and stay fresh, the dynam­ics may change over time. This was true for real-life slave­own­ers who were sex­u­ally inti­mate with their slaves, and it is true of mod­ern peo­ple who believe they have spir­i­tual own­er­ship over another. With­out flex­i­bil­ity, the slave may become emo­tion­ally crip­pled, and the mas­ter may end up alone. Read the rest of this entry →

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Adapting to slavery — Master slave relationship issues

May 16, 2012 in for admin only, Slave Training by Cuffsmaster

slave Train­ing: The fol­low­ing are some sug­ges­tions to make learn­ing to become a slave easier:

slave training - under foot of master - bdsm lifestyle1 ) Lis­ten, observe and ask ques­tions dur­ing slave train­ing. Since there are new rules and norms that may be unfa­mil­iar to you, lis­ten care­fully to ver­bal com­mu­ni­ca­tion and observe non-verbal com­mu­ni­ca­tion care­fully and try to put them in proper con­text. Take note of all things that please and dis­please your Mas­ter. If pos­si­ble, observ­ing oth­ers is a great way to learn.  slave train­ing involves pay­ing atten­tion to detail.

You should not assume that you always know what is going on or that you under­stand what you hear or see. In order to be an effec­tive slave, you must know what is expected of you. Fail­ing to ask ques­tions is often a mis­take a new trainee makes. COMMUNICATION IS KEY TO SLAVERY.

2 ) Don’t overly eval­u­ate or judge events or overly crit­i­cize your­self. You are learn­ing a new way of doing and see­ing things. Com­par­i­son to the vanilla way a rela­tion­ship works does not always apply to a BDSM rela­tion­ship. A slave is owned as prop­erty and as such must obey some­times with­out judg­ing the com­mand given to her. Your Mas­ter is to become your key source of eval­u­a­tion and judg­ment of the cor­rect­ness of your actions.

3 ) Be curi­ous. To expe­ri­ence slav­ery and to learn from it, it is impor­tant to be open to new expe­ri­ences. The more you are will­ing to explore, the more you will learn.

4 ) Expect some anx­i­ety and frus­tra­tion. Learn­ing to func­tion as a slave is not easy and it is nat­ural to feel some anx­i­ety and frus­tra­tion. If you rec­og­nize that these are nor­mal parts of the expe­ri­ence, you may be able to deal with them more effec­tively. Open­ness about your feel­ings will also help. Learn­ing slav­ery involves not only learn­ing your Master’s rules, but it also includes learn­ing new habits and alter­ing some old habits. Learn­ing new habits takes a repet­i­tive effort.

5 ) Become involved. The more you put into the expe­ri­ence of becom­ing a slave the more you will learn from it. Take the time to study the rules your Mas­ter has estab­lished for you and prac­tice the skills he requires of you. Don’t expect your Mas­ter to directly guide your every learn­ing process; actively make efforts to learn and improve your skills on your own.

6 ) Be open. In slave train­ing you will reveal your thoughts and emo­tions to your Mas­ter. Reveal­ing your inner most thoughts and feel­ings is dif­fi­cult for most peo­ple. Pre­pare your­self for this level of openness.

7 ) Accept crit­i­cism. You will be expected to change old behav­iors and atti­tudes. You may very well be chal­lenged in your actions, atti­tudes and beliefs. As a slave, your behav­ior is con­trolled by your Mas­ter. There­fore, you can expect him to be crit­i­cal of your present behav­ior and expect change. 

8 ) Expect change. Your Mas­ter will re-educate you and re-orient you to fit his needs. This will require changes in your behav­ior, emo­tions and thoughts. Pre­pare your­self for change. Train­ing a slave is often called a mold­ing process. Expect to be molded as your Mas­ter desires.  Accept that change will hap­pen and you have no choice.

9 ) Be devoted. The impor­tance of devo­tion to your Mas­ter can’t be under­stated. It pro­vides the foun­da­tion for future growth and is a source of pride for your Master.

10 ) Expect and accept obe­di­ence. Be pre­pared to learn to be obe­di­ent. A slave’s duty is to obey her Mas­ter. Often, in the begin­ning, you will be pushed. Obe­di­ence is a state of mind, there­fore, it is learned. Obe­di­ence pro­vides a foun­da­tion for more advances in learn­ing and improve­ment of your skills. Prac­tice being con­sis­tent in your obedience.

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Trust is like a bank — applied to a Master slave relationship

May 14, 2012 in Trust by Cuffsmaster

Trust in slave training:

In his book “It’s Your Ship: Man­age­ment Tech­niques from the Best Damn Ship in the Navy”    Com­man­der  Michael Abrashoff  says that per­sonal trust is like a bank.  You need to make deposits often and let it build up quan­tity and inter­est.  He points out that as events hap­pen in life you may well need to spend some of this trust so you need reserves.  Spend the trust wisely and save it for emergencies.

This may well be true in slave train­ing.  The slave girl you are train­ing may react the wrong way to a train­ing step you take or you might just make a stu­pid mis­take were extra trust in the bank will help.

It is nice to have trust in the bank to spend when that happens.

Trust In a Master/slave relationship

Often the big key to suc­cess­ful slave train­ing is based on the amount of trust she has in her Master.

What com­poses this “Bank of Trust” that she has is her belief that  he has the knowl­edge and skills to train her cor­rectly, keep her  phys­i­cally and emo­tion­ally safe, accepts own­er­ship of her as a slave girl once trained, will struc­ture ser­vice to make her use­ful and pro­duc­tive and has sta­bil­ity in his on life.  With this foun­da­tion trust can be deposited in the bank.

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Trust Bank­ruptcy in slave training

Most of us that’s been around for a while has seen those spend more trust than they have and spend it to quickly.   If you over­spend the rela­tion­ship it is most likely over.    So build a trust fund to spend as needed or when you must.

The foun­da­tion for build­ing trust with your slave is com­mu­ni­ca­tion and hon­esty.   It is also impor­tant that a slave know that her body is safe with you dur­ing play and you have the skills nec­es­sary to play wisely.    Mis­takes hap­pen so cred­i­bil­ity is impor­tant so that she does not loose con­fi­dence in your skills.   She only grows if she trust you.

 

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Welcome to the Official B.E.S.T. slave training guide & B.D.S.M. Resource

April 16, 2012 in BDSM by Cuffsmaster

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Wel­come to the orig­i­nal B.E.S.T. slave train­ing the­ory web­site in oper­a­tion since 2002. 

The B.E.S.T.  slave train­ing guide details the art, psy­chol­ogy and sci­ence of slave train­ing and the BDSM lifestyle. Top­ics are designed to increase knowl­edge of slave train­ing tech­niques and meth­ods,  behav­ior,  man­age­ment and hypnosis.

BEST slave train­ing  look at  more than behav­ioral changes.  Goals are set for a slave and she is moti­vated to change.  Slave train­ing has four areas (Behav­ior, Emotions & Sen­sa­tions, Self-Image and Thoughts.  Addi­tion bdsm top­ics like hyp­notic slave train­ing, bondage, pun­ish­ment, dis­ci­pline and train­ing sched­ules are discussed.

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