An arti­cle about the mas­ter or owner in the bdsm lifestyle and  slave train­ing. Master/owner of a slave

The Ideal Master/Owner
an arti­cle writ­ten by mb
for B.E.S.T. slave training

The Ideal Master/Owner and slave trainer in the BDSM Lifestyle

I read the arti­cle on ‘The Per­fect Slave with great interest.

How­ever, since BDSM is con­sen­sual, masters/owners must work to keep their prop­erty happy. It is not enough to train a slave accord­ing to his or her wont; the slave/property’s needs and desires must be taken into account.

1. The ideal mas­ter is one who is inter­ested in learn­ing the psy­chol­ogy of his prop­erty. He (we’ll use ‘he’ because of the dynam­ics of this site) wants to under­stand how his prop­erty thinks; not just about how that per­son thinks about slav­ery and submission, but about pretty much any­thing that they share. This is impor­tant if the mas­ter wants to have full con­trol over his prop­erty, since if the slave’s thought process is in any way a mys­tery, those thoughts can­not be under his con­trol. Some­times a slave might not inten­tion­ally hide infor­ma­tion from the dom­i­nant but still be unable to artic­u­late some­thing that seems obvi­ous or triv­ial. Under­stand­ing the slave fully, through obser­va­tion, inter­ro­ga­tion, and prior knowl­edge will makes the slave’s motives in all things crys­tal clear.

2. The ideal mas­ter is well-read in a vari­ety of sub­jects and has a quest­ing curi­ous mind. How else can he teach his slave new things or raise the bar of expec­ta­tions if he him­self can­not lead by exam­ple? This will also keep bore­dom set­ting in for the slave over the long term, as they learn new things together.

3. The ideal mas­ter has a sense of humor. He should be able to see the absur­dity in many sit­u­a­tions, includ­ing the master/slave rela­tion­ship itself. It is no longer pos­si­ble to legally own peo­ple in the US, and ante­bel­lum slav­ery was a hor­ri­ble thing that destroyed fam­i­lies and souls. With­out a sense of humor, it is easy for a mas­ter to become con­vinced that his own­er­ship is both real and immutable, which can lead to emo­tional and even phys­i­cal abuse.

4. The ideal mas­ter is capa­ble of flex­i­bil­ity. He under­stands that in order for a rela­tion­ship to grow and stay fresh, the dynam­ics may change over time. This was true for real-life slave­own­ers who were sex­u­ally inti­mate with their slaves, and it is true of mod­ern peo­ple who believe they have spir­i­tual own­er­ship over another. With­out flex­i­bil­ity, the slave may become emo­tion­ally crip­pled, and the mas­ter may end up alone. Read the rest of this entry →