Dic­tio­nary for B.E.S.T. slave training

 Below are def­i­n­i­tions of words com­monly used in B.E.S.T. slave training. 

Note: This list is used to help the read­ers of this web­site under­stand terms that are asso­ci­ated with B.E.S.T. slave train­ing. If you wish to view a gen­eral list of BDSM Lifestyle terms go to the fol­low­ing page. BDSM TERMS

As if: If a slave (in early train­ing) is made to act like a trained slave, she becomes more accus­tomed to it and she grad­u­ally comes to accept slav­ery as nat­ural. Train­ing tech­niques such as requir­ing your slave to present as you enter a room, speech mod­i­fi­ca­tions, posi­tion train­ing, learn­ing and adapt­ing to rules are all exam­ples of behav­ior mod­i­fi­ca­tion and become sec­ond nature to her. In short, dur­ing train­ing a slave is required to act “as if” she is a trained slave.

Atti­tude is a com­bi­na­tion of learned beliefs and feel­ings that effect behav­ior. In addi­tion, it has been shown that chang­ing behav­ior (act­ing “as if”) can change atti­tudes. Atti­tudes are set within our pri­vate logic. Pri­vate logic is the way we see our­selves, oth­ers and life and is our per­sonal phi­los­o­phy that our lifestyle is based upon. Atti­tude is defined as a pre­dis­po­si­tion to respond to a par­tic­u­lar object in a gen­er­ally favor­able or unfa­vor­able way. Atti­tude is influ­enced by the way we per­ceive and respond to the world and is acquired through learning.

Behav­ioral train­ing involves not allow­ing the slave to freely own her space, time, phys­i­cal actions, pri­vacy and rela­tion­ships with oth­ers. Some old habits will be elim­i­nated and new habits will be formed. Behav­ior is goal directed. There­fore, goals need to be estab­lished in slave train­ing. In addi­tion, moti­va­tion to accom­plish the goals can’t be ignored.

B.E.S.T. is an acronym for Behav­ior, Emo­tions, Self-image and Thoughts. B.E.S.T. slave train­ing is loosely based upon an approach to psy­chol­ogy that inte­grates the cog­ni­tive, behav­ioral and ana­lyt­i­cal think­ing. B. E. S. T. slave train­ing (B.E.S.T.) views slave train­ing as a re-education and reori­en­ta­tion process that molds the slave to fit her Master’s needs. Dur­ing train­ing, the Mas­ter sets Goals for his slave and moti­va­tions have to be fos­tered to accom­plish them. None of these goals can be accom­plished with­out trust and com­mu­ni­ca­tion. The re-education and reori­en­ta­tion process is accom­plished by the Mas­ter con­tin­u­ously con­sid­er­ing four areas. These areas are Behav­ior, Emo­tions, Self-Image and Thoughts.

BDSM: Bondage & Dis­ci­pline, Dom­i­nance & Sub­mis­sion, Sadism & Masochism. BDSM is a word com­bi­na­tion of 3 acronyms, BD for Bondage and Dis­ci­pline, DS for Dom­i­na­tion and Sub­mis­sion and SM for Sado Masochistic.

Bondage can be used for erotic stim­u­la­tion, pun­ish­ment, dis­ci­pline train­ing, or humil­i­a­tion. It pro­vides a real life exam­ple to the slave of her Master’s own­er­ship of her body, time and space.

Choice deci­sion: The Def­i­n­i­tion as used in B.E.S.T. slave train­ing : A slave at some point in train­ing, makes a deci­sion to allow her Mas­ter to own her choices. In other words, she makes a “choice deci­sion.” Once a slave makes this “choice deci­sion”, she becomes sub­ject to his will and obeys any choices he makes for her. The­ses choices can include her behav­ior, rela­tion­ships with oth­ers, con­trol­ling her time and space and many other things. This is not always an easy deci­sion and is directly related to the trust she feels in her Maste

Con­se­quences: Nat­ural con­se­quences are a neg­a­tive result of short-sightedness or lack of atten­tion. In nat­ural con­se­quences no one else is involved; your actions cause a con­se­quence. Log­i­cal con­se­quences are a neg­a­tive result of fail­ing to under­stand or ignor­ing rules, laws, pro­to­cols and social restric­tions that are estab­lished by her Mas­ter. Log­i­cal con­se­quences are applied by oth­ers to the offender (Mas­ter to slave).

Con­tract: A con­tract defines the goals and sets stan­dards expected of a slave and estab­lishes the respon­si­bil­i­ties of the Mas­ter. It is not a legally bind­ing con­tract, but it is a sym­bolic rep­re­sen­ta­tion of the com­mit­ment for both Mas­ter and slave.

Dis­ci­pline is train­ing employed by the Mas­ter to teach proper behav­ior and obe­di­ence. Dis­ci­pline is the instruc­tions and exer­cises used by a Mas­ter to mold his slave to serve, obey and please him. Dis­ci­pline train­ing can be phys­i­cal, men­tal or moral. Gen­er­ally, within the bdsm lifestyle the words dis­ci­pline and pun­ish­ment have dif­fer­ent meanings.

Emo­tions are the main dri­ving force in any indi­vid­ual. Pos­i­tive emo­tions about her enslave­ment should be fostered.

Inter­per­sonal forms of power are the ways a Mas­ter can man­age, train and con­trol his slave. The 5 inter­per­sonal forms of power are:

Reward Power - Coer­cive Power - Legit­i­mate Power - Rev­er­ent Power and Expert Power

Goals of the re-education process in B.E.S.T. slave train­ing are to:

•  fos­ter re-socialization
• over­come neg­a­tive feel­ings in order for her to feel “at home” in her slavery,
• mod­ify views and goals and change faulty motivations,
• develop a sense of being owned, and
•  devel­op­ing her skills into a bet­ter con­tribut­ing slave to her Master.

Help­less­ness means that she is help­less to change her behav­ior and still main­tain her slav­ery. This is because she has made a “choice deci­sion” that allows her Mas­ter to own her choices. Yes, she could change her behav­ior to one that is not her Master’s wishes, but would be out­side her slav­ery and the “choice deci­sion” she has made. She is “help­less” to change her behav­ior because how she behaves is deter­mined by her Master.

Infe­ri­or­ity means that you feel that you can improve an aspect of your life if you become bet­ter at a task, knowl­edge or skill. In other words, you strive to get bet­ter at a task you are weak at or have lit­tle knowl­edge of. Accom­plish­ments in life are dri­ven by an effort to over­come infe­rior feel­ings and it is our energy source. We strive to make our lives bet­ter and have a supe­rior life in the future

Lifestyle is the way of think­ing, see­ing, feel­ing toward life and is syn­ony­mous with what is called per­son­al­ity. Adler (1956, pp 187–188). It is the guide toward life goals and why our behav­ior as a whole is what it is. It is com­prised of both con­scious and sub­con­scious mind. The habits we form are in sup­port of our lifestyle and help us find our place in the world.

Main aim of B.E.S.T. slave train­ing is to:

• develop a sense of belong­ing to her Master,
• adopt a behav­ior pleas­ing to her Mas­ter and
• re-socialize her to fit her Master’s social needs.

This reori­ent­ing process is more than behav­ioral changes.

Mas­ter: As used in B.E.S.T., it means a slave owner and trainer. A Mas­ter is the per­son the slave has cho­sen (choice deci­sion) to own her choices.

Master’s role in train­ing is to pro­vide the slave with sup­port, direc­tion, encour­age­ment, insight, change, chal­lenge and estab­lish or rein­force social values.

Masochism: The abil­ity to derive plea­sure from pain.

Modes (slave modes) are taught sys­tems of behav­ior that are required of a slave. For most Mas­ters and slaves, there is not one over­all behav­ior that is required at all times and places. A slave is placed in a mode by voice com­mand. Once a voice com­mand is given to the slave inform­ing her which mode her Mas­ter desires, her behav­ior changes to match the rules and pro­to­cols she has learned for that mode.

Obe­di­ence for BDSM lifestyle pur­poses is the whole mind and body of the slave sub­mit­ting to the will of her Mas­ter and his rules. Obe­di­ence has to be learned, expanded and prac­ticed in order for her to become an effec­tive slave.

 Pre­sent­ing (or PRESENT) means that a slave stops what she is doing and changes her cur­rent focus and directs her atten­tion to her Mas­ter. An exam­ple of pre­sent­ing is when a slave enters the same room as her Mas­ter, she first comes to her Mas­ter and assumes a mod­i­fied STAND or KNEEL posi­tion and awaits instruc­tions. It is used to assist a Mas­ter in con­trol­ling the slave’s behavior.

Pri­vate logic deter­mines the lifestyle we live. Pri­vate logic is the way we see our­selves, oth­ers, and life and is our per­sonal phi­los­o­phy that our lifestyle is based on. Pri­vate logic guides feel­ings and behav­ior. The greater the dis­tance between pri­vate logic and real­ity, the greater the chance of inap­pro­pri­ate behavior

Pun­ish­ment is cor­rect­ing mis­be­hav­ior. It is a penalty imposed on the slave for wrongdoing.

Ratio­nal Emo­tive Behav­ioral Ther­apy (REBT) was devel­oped by Albert Ellis, Ph. D. as a means of dis­cov­er­ing and chang­ing faulty think­ing which, in turn, changes emo­tions. The beliefs we hold cause the emo­tions we feel. Iden­ti­fy­ing a belief that is incor­rect and chang­ing that belief is the key to REBT. This is accom­plished by first iden­ti­fy­ing the belief then dis­put­ing the belief.

Resis­tance is clas­si­fied as inter­nal or exter­nal. Inter­nal resis­tance is an attempt by the slave to retreat from her Master’s efforts to explore and alter behav­ior or beliefs. Exter­nal resis­tance can be caused by anx­i­ety about being depen­dent or close to another person.

Ser­vice has a two part mean­ing; behav­ior and state of mind.

Self-image is the way in which we view our­selves. The train­ing should be geared to cre­at­ing a pos­i­tive self-image in being a slave owned by her Mas­ter. A pos­i­tive self-image of her­self as a slave is important.

 Slave: The terms sub­mis­sive and slave are not the same. A sub­mis­sive obeys and serves by choos­ing to do so each time and retains her will. A slave ini­tially makes a choice to obey her Mas­ter at all times and then sub­mits to the will of her Mas­ter at all times. A sub­mis­sive accepts sub­mis­sion, while a slave accepts obe­di­ence.  BUT boy is this a sub­jec­tive term in the lifestyle that is almost indi­vid­u­al­ized to each relationship.  

S&M Sado­masochist, SM: S&M stands for “sadism and masochism”,

Social inter­ests refer to the urge a per­son has to adapt one’s self to the con­di­tions of the social envi­ron­ment around them. Another way of describ­ing social inter­est is the striv­ing to become respon­si­ble, coop­er­a­tive, and use­ful within a social environment.

Social­iza­tion is the way indi­vid­u­als learn skills, knowl­edge, val­ues, motives and roles appro­pri­ate to their posi­tion in a group or soci­ety. Re-socialization of a slave involves teach­ing new skills, val­ues, set­ting goals, pro­vid­ing moti­va­tions, and mold­ing her to the role of slave. Re-socialization always involves a teacher, a learn­ing process, a per­son to be social­ized and some­thing that is learned.

Sub­mis­sive: See “slave” for a def­i­n­i­tion of slave and sub­mis­sive. They are not nec­es­sar­ily defined as the same.

Supe­ri­or­ity means becom­ing good at doing some­thing, accom­plish­ing and improv­ing life. The slave strives for supe­ri­or­ity in her slav­ery and to strengthen the social con­nec­tion between Mas­ter and slave.

Thought process: We first think (per­ceive and value), then feel and then act. What we believe about a sub­ject or event (stim­uli) causes what emo­tions we have and this in turn causes what behav­ior is dis­played. Chang­ing a slave’s core beliefs to bet­ter accept slav­ery in turn changes emo­tions and behavior.

TPE – Total Power Exchange.  A slave giv­ing her choices to her mas­ter and him accept­ing total responsibility.

Trust involves a belief that her Master:

•  has the knowl­edge and skills nec­es­sary to re-educate and re-socialize her,
•  will keep her safe,
•  will accept own­er­ship of her,
•  and will struc­ture her ser­vice in a way that she feels use­ful and
•  has per­sonal sta­bil­ity and integrity.

Voice train­ing is train­ing the slave to speak in the pat­tern and inflec­tion that her Mas­ter finds desir­able and is befit­ting her posi­tion as his slave. This pat­tern may change depend­ing on the MODE she is placed into by her Mas­ter.  In addi­tion it involves lim­it­ing a slave speech to pre­de­fined limits. 

This dic­tio­nary includes only words that are most com­monly used in B.E.S.T. slave train­ing. For a com­plete list of BDSM terms view the BDSM TERMS page of this website.