The slave’s emo­tional reac­tion to slave train­ing (emo­tions & sen­sa­tions) is one of the four key areas of this B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide.  The abil­ity to express a full range of emo­tions indi­cates a high social inter­est.  The emo­tional reac­tions of a slave girl can aid or detract from her train­ing and devel­op­ment.   A slave should strive to become free of defen­sive and decep­tive emo­tions.  A mas­ter should strive to aline her emo­tions & sen­sa­tions to slav­ery and serv­ing him.  Emo­tional reac­tions to slave train­ing is to be expected and can be managed.

In slave train­ing and a BDSM lifestyle rela­tion­ship, in gen­eral, a slave emo­tional reac­tion to slave train­ing (emo­tions  & sen­sa­tions) in an impor­tant ele­ment. The way a slave, obeys, serves, and pleases her Mas­ter is directly effected by her emo­tions.   A Mas­ter must be con­stantly aware dur­ing intense train­ing of his slave emo­tional reac­tion to slave train­ing.

Emo­tions & Moti­va­tion, Emo­tional reac­tion to slave training

Emo­tions con­sti­tute the pri­mary moti­va­tional sys­tem of humans. Each of the pri­mary emo­tions (joy, inter­est, sur­prise, fear, anger, dis­tress, con­tempt, dis­gust, and shame) sup­ply their own unique kind of moti­vat­ing infor­ma­tion (Tomkins’ the­ory of affect described by Magai and Hun­ziker (1993, p. 261).

Emo­tions are a major part of our inner lives. They range from prim­i­tive reflexes inde­pen­dent of our thoughts to a com­plex cog­ni­tive assess­ment of our cur­rent sit­u­a­tion. Thus, emo­tions deter­mine if we are happy or unhappy.

Emo­tions are caused by learned core thoughts about an event. What we think (per­ceive and value) about an event causes the cor­re­spond­ing emo­tional reac­tion to it.

Think — Feel — React in that order 

Humans first think, then they feel, then they act. Usu­ally, what we think about an event is based upon past expe­ri­ences related to like or sim­i­lar events. The think­ing is divid­ing into two parts before we apply an emo­tion to it. First we per­ceive it, then we value the infor­ma­tion. After that an emo­tion is applied based upon our per­cep­tion and value.  There­fore an emo­tional reac­tion to slave train­ing is founded in deep roots past life expe­ri­ences as well as cur­rent events.

Emo­tional reac­tion to slave train­ing and how its expressed

Below is listed sev­eral ways that emo­tions are expressed (emo­tional reac­tions in slave training) :

Act on feel­ings:

cry when sad, com­mu­ni­cate (in body lan­guage) her inter­est when attracted to some­one. (These same behaviors–shouting, cry­ing and attracting–influence her feel­ings too.)

Phys­i­o­log­i­cal reac­tions when feel­ing something:

Blush­ing when embar­rassed, hav­ing high blood pres­sure when anx­ious, sex­ual arousal when attracted.  Actu­ally psy­chol­o­gists do not yet know whether arousal pre­cedes, accom­pa­nies, or fol­lows an emo­tional reac­tion (Weiner, 1980).

Sup­press the feel­ings and deny being upset or angry.

Quite often peo­ple who deny their emo­tions think they are healthy and well adjusted, but they tend to have high blood pres­sure, high heart rates, an immune defi­ciency, high inci­dences of can­cer (Temoshok, 1992), dif­fi­culty sleep­ing, and lots of aches and pains.

Change the situation:

shout out orders like a drill sergeant when things go wrong or become charm­ing to attract and influ­ence some­one. Note: yelling “shut up” at some­one implies, but doesn’t directly express your feel­ing, “I’m angry at you.”

One feel­ing to deny or con­ceal another: crit­i­cism may hide attrac­tion, cry­ing may occur when she is mad, love may hide scared depen­dency or she may have one feel­ing in response to another feeling.

Blame oth­ers rather than assum­ing respon­si­bil­ity for your own feelings:

“You are a self­ish, mean per­son” instead of “I feel very hurt,” “You are a lazy slob” instead of “I feel furi­ous when you are so sloppy,” “You are arro­gant” instead of “I’m afraid you won’t like me.” Remem­ber: you are more respon­si­ble than any­one else for your feel­ings. In gen­eral, no one can make you feel any way; it is usu­ally your choice (although some emo­tions are impos­si­ble to control–like a star­tle reac­tion or grief fol­low­ing the loss of a loved one).

Not be aware of the true nature of your emo­tions, but they can still have an effect on your life. Sub­con­scious causes for emo­tional reac­tion to slave train­ing that the con­scious mind is unaware of.

Share your feel­ings with oth­ers. This involves many skills: self-disclosure, “I” state­ments, social skills, assertive­ness, self-confidence, etc. Telling your story, as in ther­apy, self-help groups, or with friends, is usu­ally healthy (as long as you share your emo­tions and don’t just stick to the objec­tive facts and as long as the lis­ten­ers are supportive).

Use your feel­ings as a barom­e­ter of your rela­tion­ships with oth­ers and your self-acceptance. Neg­a­tive, unwanted feel­ings are a sign that some­thing needs to be changed and that self-help is needed.

Goal of emo­tional train­ing for a slave

The major goal in emo­tional train­ing is to align thought and emo­tions that will project a pos­i­tive self-image of her slav­ery and pro­vide moti­va­tion for proper behav­ior.  A side prod­uct of chang­ing emo­tions  is an emo­tional reac­tion to slave training.

Emo­tional Pri­vacy of a slave

Emo­tional pri­vacy should not be allowed. A slave’s emo­tional reac­tions or moods can never be pri­vate from her Mas­ter and she has no right of pri­vacy related to her inner feel­ings. Dur­ing train­ing, it is often nec­es­sary that emo­tions be changed to reflect her slav­ery. A slave should be asked often what she is feel­ing in order for her to become accus­tomed to reveal­ing her feel­ings to her Mas­ter. Often know­ing the slaves feel­ings, is a huge aid in training.

A feel­ing of help­less­ness in hid­ing emo­tions from her Mas­ter is nec­es­sary. Explain­ing the depth of what is expected of her is impor­tant. A slave should know that she has to be com­pletely open to dis­cussing her emo­tions with her Mas­ter and she reveals her feel­ings and thoughts to her Mas­ter more than to the clos­est friend she has ever known.

This open­ness in reveal­ing emo­tions is often more dif­fi­cult for her than behav­ioral mod­i­fi­ca­tions. Peo­ple have pri­vate thoughts and fan­tasies that pro­vide a view of their pri­vate logic. These are no longer pri­vate and shar­ing them with her Mas­ter is mandatory.

Note: Not nor­mally con­sid­ered a part of behav­ioral or cog­ni­tive tech­niques is the effect of the sub­con­scious mind on emo­tions. Behav­ioral and cog­ni­tive the­o­ries deal with only the con­scious processes. Hyp­no­sis, if prop­erly under­stood and admin­is­tered, can deal with under­ly­ing past issues that are buried in the sub­con­scious mind. This is usu­ally accom­plished by regres­sion tech­niques. This, at times, can be a key area that must be explored for more rapid and effec­tive changes of emo­tions and core thinking.

Tech­niques for Alter­ing slave emo­tions in slave training

Some tech­niques for alter­ing a slave’s emo­tions are:

Anger-Expression (this tech­nique can be expanded to other areas besides anger) — explain­ing feel­ings of resis­tance or reactance

1. Anxiety-Management Train­ing — think about and bring on unwanted feel­ings, then con­cen­trate on reduc­ing the feeling
2. Hyp­no­sis — direct sug­ges­tions and regression
3. Feeling-Identification and analy­sis — Clar­i­fi­ca­tion of feel­ings by inter­pre­ta­tions or open dis­cus­sion (hyp­no­sis can also be used)
4. Pos­i­tive rein­force­ment – praise, recog­ni­tion and encouragement
5. Suc­cess at com­plet­ing goals
6. Some emo­tions that should be addressed are anger, envy, jeal­ousy, and sadness.

 A slave’s Sen­sa­tions dur­ing training

emo­tions & sen­sa­tions is slave training

Sen­sa­tions are what the body feels with the five senses: touch, taste, smell, sight, and hear­ing. Being aware of the sen­sa­tions dis­played by your slave can lead to insight into her emo­tions. Sen­sa­tions are often the body’s reac­tion to emo­tions and can be gen­er­ated in the form of pain, ner­vous­ness or headaches.

The Mas­ter may want to also under­take some sen­sa­tion train­ing to increase cer­tain sen­sa­tions or allow him to con­trol then with commands.

Thoughts (con­scious or uncon­scious) cause emo­tions that cause sensations.

Exam­ples of tech­niques used to con­trol or change sensations:

1.  Focus­ing — exam­in­ing thoughts and feel­ings then express­ing them.
2. Hyp­no­sis or Self-Hypnosis — to reduce stress­Re­lax­ation training
3. Sen­sate focus train­ing — Increas­ing sex­ual sen­sa­tion feel­ings by focus­ing and fol­low­ing her Master’s instructions
4. Thresh­old train­ing — train­ing to hold orgasms

Sen­sa­tions that should be addressed are headaches, ten­sion and being unable to relax.

These web­sites may offer help : for infor­ma­tion of Emo­tional reac­tion to slave train­ing see METHODS OF CHANGING EMOTIONS   & this one.