slave Train­ing & BDSM Lifestyle

Wel­come to the slave train­ing guide & bdsm lifestyle resource.   This web­site has been one of the major sources of knowl­edge con­cern­ing basic to advanced slave train­ing and also the BDSM lifestyle since 2002.

Image by China Hamil­ton — slave in bondage

This slave train­ing  guide is pred­i­cated on set­ting goals and instill­ing the moti­va­tion to turn her into a slave girl.

You will learn what she likes and needs from BDSM  and why she is drawn to slave train­ing.  Her behav­ior, emo­tions, self-image and thoughts are all sub­ject to being molded to bet­ter serve her Mas­ter.  The goal of this slave train­ing guide isn’t to hold your hand and pro­vide you the step by step details of slave train­ing.  It instead, pro­vides a Mas­ter with an out­line of slave train­ing.   You must fill in the details.

The goal is to teach  you “Why ” and the “How TO train a slave” will nat­u­rally fol­low.  Keep in mind that BDSM & slave train­ing are based upon the informed con­sent of each of the par­ties involved.  A slave starts her path into slav­ery by giv­ing up choices.  She con­sents to start train­ing.  she is not forced against her will to start.

Please view the con­tent of this site as a the­o­ret­i­cal ref­er­ence you can turn into a prac­ti­cal slave train­ing aid by adapt­ing it to your life.  I don’t know your own BDSM lifestyle, kink or sex­ual pref­er­ences, there­fore I can only pro­vide you a gen­eral guide.  You must  do the detailed work of slave train­ing based upon your per­sonal needs for a slave and train­ing method­ol­ogy.  Remem­ber , the fun of this and the joy in life is not read­ing slave train­ing the­ory, it’s the actual hands on train­ing.   Any B.D.S.M. lifestyle man­ual or this slave train­ing guide only pre­pares you to put your art in prac­tice.  slave train­ing is a hand’s on expe­ri­ence.  I hope to pro­vide more real­is­tic infor­ma­tion than the novel “Story of O”

What is the goal for slave training?

The goal of this course is to train her to the point she will be wor­thy of being your col­lared slave girl.  You mold her to serves you.  You train her to make you happy.  If you want a sex slave then train her for that pur­pose. If you want a domes­tic ser­vant then give her that coach­ing.  Train­ing is geared to the needs, desires and wants of  the Master.

For the dom­i­nants new to the lifestyle,  first you need to learn how to be a mas­ter of a slave girl and how to safely con­duct  train­ing and bdsm play.  Many in the lifestyle fol­low the Gorean model.  It’s a method of slave train­ing and lifestyle play that is taken from fic­tion books writ­ten by John Nor­man about life on the myth­i­cal planet Gor.  All that fic­tion, Gorean rit­u­als and Gorean style slave posi­tions aren’t  nec­es­sary to be a  really knowl­edgable and skilled Mas­ter that can train his slave well.  Mas­ters were con­duct­ing train­ing before John Nor­man wrote any of the Gor tales.  I, like many, rel­ish Norman’s books how­ever I do not base my slave train­ing or lifestyle around these books of fic­tion.   But I do love to read them.

For the new slave trainee, the Master/slave lifestyle is crammed with pro­to­cols, rit­u­als, rules and slave posi­tions to learn.  Every slave girl can expect most if not all these will be included in her basic train­ing reg­i­men.  But in gen­eral,  if you do not wish to step into the Master/slave rela­tion­ship and undergo coach­ing then you can opt for a dominant/submissive rela­tion­ship.  There is noth­ing wrong with that decision.

This B.D.S.M. lifestyle is about con­sen­sual sub­mis­sion into slav­ery even with total power exchange.  You choose the level of your par­tic­i­pa­tion in the lifestyle.  Slave train­ing is not for every sub­mis­sive.  No lifestyle law is bro­ken if you decide to not undergo slave train­ing.  It has been long rec­og­nized that slaves and submssives share com­mon inter­est but aren’t the same.

Slave train­ing:  The Start,  you don’t have to be experienced.

Unless you have prior expe­ri­ence you will most likely NOT start your slave train­ing expe­ri­ence being a slave.  It’s more likely you’ll undergo the. coach­ing process of becom­ing a slave.  The goal is for you to be the best slave you can be but don’t expect it to hap­pen the first day.  For many, the step by step process of becom­ing a sub­mis­sive or slave  is a more nat­ural process of train­ing.  You have a desire to be owned even if you don’t feel you have a sub­mis­sive per­son­al­ity.  The speed you become a slave depends on your abil­ity to learn to serve, obey and please.  The bdsm dominant/submissive lifestyle is one that can give you joy and  fills that deep need and yearn­ing buried deep in your soul.  Embrace it and move for­ward.  Don’t be afraid of your dreams of slavery.

A Mas­ter becomes a slave’s per­sonal trainer to guide her into the future.  For brand spank­ing new master’s need­ing to expand their skills I have done some  “train the trainer classes” and may again in the future.  These are great slave train­ing jump starters.  But even with­out it you can learn from many alter­na­tive sources.  There could be Mas­ters in your local area will­ing to assist you.

In the past I have train­ing slave’s for their Mas­ter. I have taken the slave girls into my home for extended period for train­ing.  On this web­site I dis­cuss some deep psy­cho­log­i­cal prin­ci­ples of  train­ing a slave.  But at the core slave train­ing is an art form albeit based on knowl­edge and skills founded in logic and reason.

I have also con­ducted train­ing classes in the use of hyp­no­sis and slave train­ing.   My train­ing is geared toward train­ing dom­i­nant males and sub­mis­sive females or female slave.  How­ever I have also trained dom­i­nant females and assisted in the train­ing of sub­mis­sive males.

If you are just get­ting stated,  be sure to fol­low some basic safety pre­cau­tions and be aware that there are those only inter­ested in domes­tic abuse and vio­lence.  If you meet some­one be sure to estab­lish safe calls with a friend even if you have talked to the on-line for a long time.   Many that are only inter­est­ing in abuse find the lifestyle an avenue to find victims.

Also remem­ber that the dominant/submissive lifestyle is a huge and diverse tent with many mem­bers  that enjoy edge play and things you may not have even heard of.  What some peo­ple enjoy as bdsm  kinky play or slave train­ing in their rela­tion­ship may not appeal to you.  So be sure to ask and ask and ask to get your ques­tions answered about their slave train­ing and bdsm practices.

Now back to the B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide and how I con­duct slave training.

Foun­da­tions of B.E.S.T. slave Train­ing guide

The B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide stands for Behav­ior, Emo­tions, Self-Image and Thoughts.  These are all key areas a Mas­ter  uses in slave train­ing to cre­ate a foun­da­tion  for his slave to serv­ing, obey­ing and pleas­ing.  Chang­ing, man­ag­ing and con­trol­ling these four key areas are all part devel­op­ing her.

Each of the four cor­ners of the B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide are explored in detail and has its own sec­tion.  Many only look at the Behav­ior sec­tion of this slave train­ing guide but the other three areas are just as impor­tant for a Mas­ter to under­stand and use in train­ing.  This guide should be viewed in its entirety first because it is a the­ory based on the whole being of a slave not just behavior.

What do I need to train my slave?

You need a dom­i­nant per­son­al­ity, a good char­ac­ter she can trust , and a few basic skills.   You have to know what you want and that “want” has to be real­is­tic and obtain­able.  Read­ing this slave train­ing guide and under­stand her “make up” is a good start.  Her Behav­ior is gov­erned by her emo­tions and think­ing and the B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide explores them in detail from many angles.   This course takes you beyond bdsm play into the real world of train­ing a slave to serve and please you for life.

The B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide is not intended to be used for week­end sport.   If you are seri­ous about liv­ing the lifestyle of a Mas­ter and slave and learn­ing skills then this guide will help you start down that road.  No, it is not the com­plete answer to all your train­ing needs.  You have to develop your own skills and find addi­tional resources to help you.   It is not an “end all, be all” manual.

A look at the slave train­ing guide:

The slave train­ing guide tech­niques and man­age­ment menu sec­tion is a resource guides to actual train­ing. Here you learn about spank­ing, bondage, frig­ging and other nasty prac­tices you will love.  Many detail related to slave train­ing are dis­cussed in this guide.  In addi­tion some defin­ing char­ac­ter­is­tics of a Mas­ter are dis­cussed.  It is an eclec­tic sec­tion on var­i­ous slave train­ing related subjects.

The BDSM lifestyle sec­tion cov­ers arti­cles about the lifestyle and why it is OK to love bdsm. NO, you are NOT crazy so lighten up. You don’t need pro­fes­sional help for hav­ing these feel­ings.  All that is dis­cussed in the bdsm sec­tion.  I also cover the way the DSM IV views BDSM.

Arti­cles of inter­est to the BDSM lifestyle com­mu­nity and to B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide are in the “arti­cles Index” under the “Other” menu. Arti­cles will be con­stantly added about slave train­ing, BDSM lifestyle, and so on.

As this bdsm lifestyle & slave train­ing guide devel­ops many other sub­jects will be more deeply explored, such as: bondage, dom­i­nance, sub­mis­sion, humil­i­a­tion, flog­ging, spank­ing, can­ning, train­ing, pun­ish­ment, B&D, S&M, BDSM, hyp­no­sis, sex­u­al­ity, sex slave train­ing, advanced orgasm con­trol, dis­ci­pline, sus­pen­sion, dun­geons, and safe, sane, and con­sen­sual prac­tices.  This train­ing guide is intended to expand and stay cur­rent with today’s news topic about  the bdsm lifestyle and slave training.

Thank you for your sup­port for this slave train­ing guide since the site started in 2002.  I hope we con­tinue together explor­ing the Master/slave dynam­ics for years and years through this gen­eral bdsm lifestyle and slave train­ing guide.

Per­sonal note to new mas­ters & slaves  inter­ested in the slave train­ing guide and the gen­eral bdsm lifestyle

Much of this web­site deals with psy­cho­log­i­cal the­ory.  But the fun of slave train­ing is grab­bing her by the hair if her head and/or see­ing her kneel before you with that look only her mas­ter sees in her eyes.  There is noth­ing like hands on coach­ing & train­ing.  This mate­r­ial only aids you by giv­ing you basic knowl­edge.  The “B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide”  has never trained the first girl by itself.  The skills of a Mas­ter and the will­ing­ness of a slave are needed.  I truly believe slave train­ing is pri­mar­ily an art form and not a sci­ence.  So grab a hand-full of her hair and gets started

NOW that is not to say that you don’t need a man­ual, men­tor, or train­ing guide to help you get started.  But don’t drag your feet. Besides this slave train­ing guide there are prob­a­bly local “munch” groups in your area with many expe­ri­ences Mas­ter, slave, subs, Tops, and switches to help you get started.

There are also some very good books that can be used as a guide as you progress into the BDSM lifestyle.

There are many on-lines dat­ing ser­vices geared to help you find a Mas­ter or dom­i­nant or slave or sub­mis­sive.  One is listed at the bot­tom of this page on the right in the footer.

The fol­low­ing are the main and  impor­tant cat­e­gories of the slave train­ing guide.

The­ory of B.E.S.T. (an exam­i­na­tion of the Basic the­ory of the manual)

Prac­tice of B.E.S.T. (look­ing at a slave’s  behav­ior, emo­tions, self-image & thoughts)

 Behav­ior

 Emo­tions

 Self-Image

 Thoughts

 Rec­om­mended Books on slav­ery and those inter­ested in the BDSM lifestyle

BDSM slave train­ing guide and bdsm resource book: Pro­to­cols: Hand­book for the female slave 

Won­der­ful BDSM Images (I am for­ever in his debt for allow­ing me to use some of his images on B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide)

China Hamil­ton

All the bdsm lifestyle & slave train­ing man­ual mate­r­ial on this site is copy­righted by ME and you don’t have per­mis­sion to repro­duce any of it with­out my express con­sent. Don’t even assume per­mis­sion to use it is implied. It is not. Yes this means you. all mate­r­ial is © 2002 to 2012