Using Craigslist to find a master.
Below is a conversation on messenger that is girl gave me permission to publish to help others. The overwhelming need to be owned is common and I want to address it. The need for slavery is strong and you must use care. DON’T let the need overpower common sense when it comes to finding a long-term partner
I changed her name and copied a crude messenger conversation — so don’t look at the way we writing private messages but instead look at the soul of the conversation.
The conversations starts below:
i recently started seriously researching and reading everything i can find and have had several “ah-ha” moments.
then she said later on in the conversation:
thank you, Sir again for your quick response. how do i know which master to choose? i put an ad on craigslist and received several replies. narrowed a list of 20 – 30 down to 4 ~ thru emailing and instant messaging. recently meet with one Master and ended up having a session with him where he tpld me i was now his slave in training. my question is ~ am i allowed to see more than one Master? do i choose or do they?
I think cragslist is not a wise option and dangerous
No he does not claim you as his slave — you have to GIVE your slavery and up and until you GIVE it you can see others.
You make a decision to give your slavery. no one can do that for you.
you are just hearing bullshit lol
you make the decision to give your all. No one makes that for you.
I can’t even imagine all the nuts you must have com up with on craigslist.
so you can’t be forced into consensual slavery . Yes once you give up your freedoms you are owned as a slave but you give them up. He does not take them by answering a craigslist ad and playing with you. A fucking play session has little to do with training you as a slave girl
craigslist for the most part is a joke. so knowing that, it makes it easier to weed out the bullshiters. like i said ~ i have it narrowed down to 3. the first one ~ the one i met already ~ first of all he said we would meet at first and discuss things and to see if we clicked. we meet at mcdonald’s and he says lets go for a drive and talk. i probably shouldn’t but i said ok. of course we end up at ”his office” where he tells me to strip, turn around, bend over and he inspects every inch of me. then he takes me in another room hogties me and ”gives me a taste of what i can expect being a slave”, for the next 2 hours. i was no longer to call him Sir now call him Master. the other 2 i have not met with. can i connect with people through your website? i mean if i hook up with the wrong one ~ this could go horribly wrong!! but it something i feel i must do. it’s beyond my control at this point, i know this is my destiny … thank you, Sir for listening.
you are moving to fast — yes you can connect — it is better to go slow — you are bound to fuck up if you move so blindly forward.
I know you have found your destiny so don’t fuck it up by taking the first thing that claims to be a dom. you will seriously regret it and maybe set you back for years
use common sense
i feel like i’m trying to make up for lost time. like it took me to long to get to this point. i already know i am submissive ~ that’s me ~ but how do i know if i am meant to be a slave? don’t i need to actually do it to know for sure?
I know you want it NOW because you have found what will make you happy — believe me I have seen several get their dreams destroyed or damages or delayed by doing what you are doing RIGHT NOW
you are smart and use commons sense — you can do this right
and yes you get to make the decision on who you surrender too
this is not a game — it is real — and there are lots of freaks out there
most likely that is what you find on creigslist and you know it
so, from when we first start talking (online) and i am able to ask questions ~ after he tells me what he expects from me and what i can expect from him ~ how long do i wait until we meet? and honestly ~ how can i really know he isn’t lying? i mean since i don’t have any real experience at this ~ how do i avoid getting into a situation i can’t get out of. i know there is a fine line between Dom/Master and someone who just wants to tie me up and beat my ass ~ how the hell do i tell the difference? i’m not sure common sence applies here ~ as i have nothing to compare to. i mean i can’t say this feels different than the last time or the last guy, there isn’t any last time or guy to compare to. one of my potential Masters, i believe is possibly doing things right. he is giving me homework ~ he somehow knew i needed to get somethings of my chest ~ so he gave me an assignment to write an essay about my past relationships and how i felt. i sent him a page a day for 5 days (completed on fri) now next assignment write about my childhood. he is in no hurry and seems to be trying to understand what makes me me… or is he?? i am more confused than ever i really thought the hard part (realizing this is what i want) was over. and now i must say ~ i am a little more scared (which is probably a good thing) thank you, Sir for openning my eyes and slowing me down
you are able to ask anything you want — hell even after you are a slave you are allowed to ask questions if you don’t understand an order.
simply because he tells you what he expects does not mean the bells go off in you and he is who you want to own you. you have a right to give yourself to who you wish — THEN you are owned. You can’t be forced into slavery. BUT once in you are in and only he can let you out – SO you have to be sure
you don’t just (jump) in head first with the first guy that displays a whip – strips you naked or gives you an order. Hell you are easy prey for the vultures and sickos out there. you have to use (good) judgement
Yes it is hard – that is why you’d be foolish to even consider giving yourself as a slave after such a short meeting. Think about it. And what does that say for him. Red flags should be going off in your mind left and right. Again use common sense. you are trying to enter a serious long-term relationship. Simply because it is a master/slave relationship is no reason to leave you common sense behind you. you know this is stupid on your part. Use good judgement.
you don’t become a slave in 5 minutes after some fool strips your cloths off and inspects your ass and cunt. you know better.
you want it ”yesterday” instead of doing it right. you’re setting yourself up for a huge failure and it will happen if you proceed along this course.
ok so you are confused — so what — it is better to be confused than make a huge fucking mistake that gets you harmed. Hell he is on good behavior now lol you don’t even know what he is like. I do know he is desperate or he would not have tried to claim you like that. That is foolish on both of your parts. I am sure he would disapprove of me telling you this or you contacting anyone with experience with the lifestyle because you would be told you’re making a mistake. THINK ABOUT IT !!!!!
you know this has not started logically or you would not be asking all these questions. you feel it and see the red flags. Pay attention to your mind –
you read about slavery you feel the need for it. it overwhelms you and you want it all yesterday. you are setting yourself up for a huge failure and disappointment. The changes of this being right is damn slim and you know it.
ok, Sir ~ please enlighten me, how do you as a Master proceed when you find a potential submissive/slave? that way i may have something to go by in comparison. and you are very much correct ~ getting into that situation was foolish and could have gone very wrong!!!
number one – –I am pleased you see how it could have gone wrong and in fact did because now you have no clue and you are more reserved.
I take time to know – communicate – communicate communicate – also you can do little things to start
i have put the brakes on this (THANKS TO YOU) in order to assure i am doing right. you may have just saved me from a great deal of unnecessary bullshit!! thank you
well there was a part deep in you that was trying to save you from yourself. I am glad the voice was loud enough to make you reach out to me.
you will not regret taking your time. Look becoming a slave is hard even with the R I G H T master. you are seeking slavery first — not a relationship with a Man that can be your master
I then asked her: If I could post this conversation
yes, Sir please post all or part of our conversation. if i hadn’t reached out to you ~ i can only imagine what could have happened. i was fucked around in the vanilla world ~ i don’t want the same to happen here then where would i go? i would be left incomplete and stuck. yes, Sir you have my permission
I asked to post this conversation because it comes up several times a year on my website and wanted to put it out for thought.
Many of us find slave’s on-line. There is no easy way. However an honest understand of the lifestyle is necessary. A submissive seeking a master has a right to choose she submits to. It is unlike that one short meeting and a trip to the office for a cunt examination is enough. I found a slave online but there is a common sense process of developing this relationship.
This guy may be perfect for her but because she was thinking that she has no option but to accept him as her master is not a postive way to start and in my opinion is a huge red flag leading to trouble. I have seen men that prey on those that know little about the lifestyle and don’t take proper steps. I have been involved in some court cases involving abuse or worse that started off with lack of planning or willingness to see red flags. Someday I may write an article on the fraud and violence I have witnessed. Three cases ended up with the submissive having to testify in open court.
In addition never meet someone you don’t know without making safe calls to a friend. There is lots of information about safe calls on-line and almost anyone in the lifestyle will help you. Know the full identity of the person you are meeting and make sure others know as well.
Please post helpful thoughts
Look but look safely