Serve, Ser­vice, Servitude?

By

MsLyn

mslynnyc@yahoo.com

 

What do you mean when you offer to serve?

What do you mean when you offer to be of service?

What do mean when you offer your­self in servitude?

Do the answers to these ques­tions bring up visions of you being bound help­lessly while being exquis­itely tor­tured, teased to the verge of orgasm?

Do you envi­sion some Ama­zon God­dess sport­ing a huge strap-on tak­ing you anally?

Do you envi­sion your­self pranc­ing around in some French Maid Cos­tume and being asked to pro­vide oral ser­vice to a Mistress?

Do you envi­sion some woman squat­ting over your help­lessly bound body “forc­ing” you to serve her orally?

Do you envi­sion being put over her knee and spanked like a naughty lit­tle boy?

 

Yes, nice visions aren’t they? How­ever, not one of those visions is the def­i­n­i­tion of “serve”, “ser­vice” or “servi­tude”. Oh, I’m sure you con­sider them to be just that, but if you check your dic­tio­nar­ies you won’t find any men­tion of French Maid Cos­tumes or bondage or strap-ons or oral sex or any other fetish you may enjoy.

In fact you won’t find any men­tion of fetishes at all in the definitions.

Serve is defined as:

1. to work for, be a servant;

2. to act in a spe­cific capacity;

3. to place food before, wait on;

4. to be of assis­tance to.

Ser­vice is defined as:

1. the occu­pa­tion or duties of a servant;

2. the act or means of serving;

3. duties per­formed as an occupation.

Servi­tude is defined as:

 

Sub­mis­sion to a mas­ter; slavery.

When you offer to serve a Fem­Dom, what you are offer­ing (or should be offer­ing) is the sur­ren­der of your con­trol. You should know her well enough to trust her with your life. When you offer your servi­tude to her, you are telling her that you trust her judg­ment, you trust her to keep you safe from harm, you trust her to know what is best for both of you, you trust her deci­sions and desire to fol­low her orders and obey her in all things. Your offer of ser­vice is your abil­ity to let go of your ego and your free will (con­trol) and allow her to con­trol you.

Serv­ing is, first and fore­most, the act of mak­ing her life eas­ier. It is com­pli­ance with all her desires, wishes, and orders. Yes, BD/SM and fetish play more than likely will be included as part of the rela­tion­ship. But over­all, the D/s aspect of the rela­tion­ship will be where you have turned your con­trol over to her and do as she says. It is about pam­per­ing her and cater­ing to her.

Every­day life will be part of this, for most peo­ple do have to work, bills do have to be paid, peo­ple need to see doc­tors occa­sion­ally, and den­tists. Then there are fam­ily get togeth­ers, fam­ily emer­gen­cies, social gath­er­ings with vanilla friends and also with D/s friends. For the most part, life will seem pretty vanilla, but there will be one dif­fer­ence. IF you have truly sub­mit­ted, then your actions will be mea­sured by how your Mis­tress would feel about it. Your deci­sions will be based upon what you are allowed or not allowed to decide with­out her per­mis­sion. You will treat oth­ers with respect, but espe­cially other women. You will con­sider that your actions would reflect back upon your Mis­tress and there­fore act in a man­ner that would make her proud of you. There may be other con­stant reminders; she may insist you wear panties under your clothes at work. But you will always remem­ber that you have sub­mit­ted to her and will honor that commitment.

How can you serve your Mis­tress — what are the ways?

Here are some suggestions:

Make sure her home is clean and neat.

Make sure her clothes are clean and neat.

Pre­pare her favorite foods for her.

Pre­pare her bath.

Rub her feet after she comes in from work­ing all day.

Offer her a mas­sage if her day was very stressful.

Offer to do her man­i­cure and pedicure.

Have her favorite music play­ing or find her favorite show or movie on TV.

Sur­prise her with flowers.

Serve her cof­fee as soon as she gets up in the morning.

Ask what cloth­ing she wants laid out for her.

These are just a few of the ways you can serve her once you have been trained in what she wants and likes. Don’t be afraid to use your imag­i­na­tion to sur­prise her (pro­vided of course that she has no prob­lem with you doing this occasionally).

A happy, con­tented, pleased, relaxed woman is a woman who will then have no prob­lem tor­tur­ing you, using you, or even indulging you with a fetish or two that are your favorites…………just to show you how much she really appre­ci­ates your ser­vice and sub­mis­sion to her.

So, what are you offering?

1) Per­sonal ser­vice only (oral, mas­sage, bathing)?

2) Play ses­sions only (spank­ings, face­sit­ting, strap-on, whip­pings, cbt)?

3) Domes­tic ser­vice only (house­hold chores, errands)?

4) OR are you offer­ing her the whole package?

These are the things you need to be clear about in your own mind first and fore­most before approach­ing a Mis­tress and offer­ing to “serve” her.

Reprint only with the per­mis­sion of Mslyn: mslynnyc@yahoo.com