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A group were slaves can discuss issues between each other.

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getting started (11 posts)

  • Profile picture of dea dea said 11 months, 1 week ago:

    discuss alternatives to meeting online, is there a way to distinguish a true Dom from a bullshit wanna be Dom? established slaves sharing their stories and experiences with unexperienced slaves

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  • Profile picture of Deleted User said 11 months ago:

    This looks like a great forum! I can’t wait to comment on here. I am sure we all have so many nightmare stories and we can all learn from each other in order to prevent such bad experiences in the future.

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  • Profile picture of Deleted User said 11 months ago:

    Personally I have found (both online and in person) that the worst thing a slave could do is to come out in the open with someone who they don’t know if the other person is in the lifestyle or not. I have met men who claimed to be dominant after I told them the lifestyle I want to pursue and they thought it was just a free ride to have rough sex with me and be abusive. I think it is incredibly important to allow the other person to display their natural personality and character before telling them of the role in the lifestyle you wish to have. This of course is just my personal opinion. I feel that this helps with the whole safety issue.
    Also, anytime that someone proclaims that they are a Master but yet don’t have slaves truly is not a Master. That is something that the slave gives him, a title he earns from respect. He could say he has had experiences in the past with being a Master or say he is naturally dominant but without a slave he is NOT a Master–except maybe master of his pets and house. So to me that would throw up a huge red flag. The number one thing I would offer as advice is to make sure that the Dom does not come straight out and start bossing you around–and ordering sexual demands. In what way has a complete stranger earned the respect of you in order for you to submit to that? I could never submit to someone who has not first earned my respect. A quality Dom/Master would know that.

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  • Profile picture of Amy Amy said 11 months ago:

    Thanks, for the post Kate. One can never be too careful when dealing with people you do not know. I can see where a woman would be vulnerable to the pray that says they are into the lifestyle they are not. The type of person that would be a good Master/ Mistress, would have pride and integrity in owning their slaves.

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  • Profile picture of dea dea said 10 months, 3 weeks ago:

    Hi Kate and Amy, thank you for the posts. maybe i have been asking the wrong people the questions i have. i have been asking potential Dom’s and Master’s ~ but maybe i need to ask current and active subs and slave’s. so here goes (if i may) after meeting someone online and emailing/iming back and forth for x amount of weeks ~ then what?? do i or don’t i do anything that first meeting or just talk? (my thought’s : we have already been talking up til then, when we meet i want a demo). am i allowed to see more than one guy at a time? i mean, if i see a guy on friday can i see a different guy on tuesday and a different guy on thursday? and if i can : do i let them know about each other?
    maybe you could share with me your first experiences. as much as you feel comfortable with, i would greatly appreciate it.
    i have exchanged several emails with Cuffmaster (whom i may add probably saved me from going to fast and getting seriously hurt or worse THANK YOU CUFFMASTER) and he was very helpful but he also scared me. i know i have to be careful and be aware but how the hell is that possible? how well do you really know someone? they can say all the right things and once i am bound and under their control totally flip on me. i want this so much but i’m afraid of doing something wrong or being to scared to do anything . . . help me if you can, please.
    thaank you
    dea

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  • Profile picture of Deleted User said 10 months, 2 weeks ago:

    Yes, I would say that talking for quite some time online and on phone for possible even longer than a month would be good. I think that pursuing a demo after meeting so soon could potentially be dangerous. You need to sit down and talk like normal people. Ask him questions in person, analyze his responses and in that time you can also get a good sense as to what his expectations and main goals are for you. It is in my experiences that it is very easy to quickly tell someone’s motives after speaking to them about the Master/slave relationship. Now, after having had a normal discussion in person and you realize that there is something not right or that he is just after a quick fuck and/or rape it is much harder to leave if you have already told him you want a “demo”. It is in our nature as slaves to be submissive and do it even if we feel like it is not right. We aim to please but we still need to be selective in giving our submissive side to people. So yes, I would suggest that you really get to know someone online and in person prior to even discussing the desires of being trained or having a demo session. Remember, it is not just the Master/Mistress who is interviewing you, you are also interviewing them to see if it is a good fit. So try to learn and understand their thought process before granting them with surrender of your control.

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  • Profile picture of dea dea said 10 months, 2 weeks ago:

    Katy ~
    thank you for your response. these are things i need to hear and can learn from.
    your advice made alot of sense and probably something i already knew but needed to hear,
    thank you for your time & your advice
    dea

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  • Profile picture of tallie tallie said 10 months, 2 weeks ago:

    It has been my experience that most times (not every time, most times) when a person who claims to be a Master is not involved in the public scene or is not a well recognized person with in the community, a “Master” that only plays privately, it sends up red flags for me. A “Master” that is not willing to allow me to contact His previous slaves or other Masters as a reference, is a red flag for me. A “Master” that does not or never has attended BDSM Conferences is like a yellow flag for me. If He has not,…. how did He gain all of His experience? Self taught,…. maybe,…..
    Some how He needs to convince me that He really does have the knowledge and experience that He says that He has.
    If the two of us met online, what is the reputation of the web site for attracting quality “Masters” seeking slaves. What is the intention of the web site.
    For me, if He came from a web site such as this one, it would give the “Master” at least several feathers in His cap. At least He would be showing interest in the deeper spectrum of the M/s dynamic.

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  • Profile picture of Deleted User said 10 months, 1 week ago:

    Yes, being well recognizes within the community is also a huge aspect for me as well. If they are not respected and inexperienced I find it very difficult to respect.I agree with you Tallie.

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  • Profile picture of Deleted User said 9 months, 4 weeks ago:

    Some advice i can add if you are going to meet someone you have been talking to online is to set the meeting in a public place and to also have a safe call set up with a friend

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  • Profile picture of KatiHWB KatiHWB said 8 months, 1 week ago:

    Master and myself were FRIENDS online before anything else …. we got to know each other through emails and phone calls etc after being introduced through my mother (of all people) and both enjoyed the others’ company. The first time He visited, it was just as friends with a view to starting a relationship, and yes i did have a ‘safe call’ set up just in case things went wrong.
    While i have never been that ‘into’ the public scene myself, i have many friends who are, and their help and advice along the way have been wonderful

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