Goals and Motivation:

Without Exception: A Master/slave relationship needs goals and motivation. You will need short-term and long-term goals. They may be as simple as teaching her to kneel property or as complicated as changing her thought to that of being your slave.

In the relationship, you have goals for yourself, for her and for the both of you. Training is not possible without them.

You may have BDSM objects, such as rope bondage or flogging that you want her to experience. All the little goals are joined together into your quest to mold her into your slave that obeys, serves and pleases you. Never lose sight of the objective and develop a comprehensive plan to achieve it.

Below you will find details and theories about goals and some application of them into slave training.   You are left with the task of determining your own goals for training a slave to serve you.

The major Goal in slave training in the BDSM Lifestyle:

Training a slave to transfer her freedoms to her Master and become his property is the primary goal.  This can only be accomplished after she has agreed to be trained.  This agreement must be consensual and with full understanding of your intent.

To be useful, this transference of freedom must be consensually given. The idea of setting goals in slave training indicates to the slave that the Master’s interest in a long-term relationship and provides her with guide posts in training. The key to re-education and re-socialization is establishing proper training goals. Goals and motivation is important in slave training.


slave training goals and motivations - slave girl with arms bound - bdsmOther goals:

Besides the overall goal of slavery, there are many smaller slave training goals set along the way. These goals should be small in nature to allow positive reinforcement upon completion and should not be seen as beyond reach to the slave. Setting smaller intermediate goals that can be reached will increase a slave’s self-esteem. Acceptance of Goals: The slave trainee must accept the goals of her Master and adopt them as her own.

Successful slave Training depends both upon her acceptance of her Master’s goals and her motivation to reach them. Proper time should be taken to describe all objectives in detail to improve success from the beginning.

A general business definition of goals is this: “A goal is a written statement that clearly describes certain actions or tasks with a measurable outcome.”

To elaborate on this definition, If not recorded, it is merely an idea with no power, conviction or motivation behind it. It will lack.  A written goal reminds you and your slave exactly what has to be done.

Re-reading this written goal on a regular basis will provide the necessary motivation to achieve the goal. A goal will clearly describe particular actions or tasks.   A slave contract is the perfect place to lay out the Major goal.

A clearly defined goal will eliminate misunderstanding. Clearly described goals will include action verbs such as create, submit, learn, improve, organize, make, practice, develop, etc. A test to determine the clarity of your stated goal is to show the statement to your slave and ask her to explain the purpose and objective of the goal.

Goals must have a measurable result with a time frame for completion. A measurable goal is quantifiable and described in such a way that the outcome cannot be disputed. If something cannot be measured, chances are that it cannot be effectively managed.

The above concept is a strong reinforcement for written rules and contracts for a slave to follow. Now that you have a written goal for your slave, the following will help you direct your slave to achieve the goal:

1) Have her imagine regularly and vividly your goal as accomplished.

2) If appropriate, have her share your goal with as many people as possible so they can support her and encourage her actions in achieving the goal.

3) Break the goal into small steps or tasks and set deadlines to complete the smaller steps.

4) Review her progress regularly.

5) Have her plan each task or step on a calendar. In this way, she makes appointments for working on the task. Have her block out the time needed and do not allow interruptions, phone calls or other responsibility that distract her.

If she has trouble or gets bogged down, encourage her to ask for help. Also allow her to help others who may be in need of support. Motivate her to make the decision that she will accomplish the goal. Plan a reward for your slave for the accomplishment of the goal. She then follows the goals and motivations needed.

The simple Application:

Task must be clearly defined.  Reward must be clear and contingent on performance.  Performance must be rewarded.  Adequate resources must be supplied to achieve task. The Task must be obtainable by the slave.

Motivation for a slave in training:

Motivation is the driving force for the completion of goals. Acceptance of a goal is not enough; the slave has to want to meet the goal. Thoughts and emotions govern motivation.. If a problem develops in the slave’s motivation, more than behavioral changes are needed. Slave training is dependent on a slave’s strong motivation to serve, obey and please.

The examination of the slave’s thoughts and feelings are essential. This reviews her goals and motivation.

 Elements of Motivation:

Motivation is often explained as follows:

 1) It usually is an internal condition that can’t be observed.

 2) It is the connection between internal condition and external behavior.

 3) It initiates, activates and maintains behavior.

 4) It is goal directed.


Internal and external motivation:

 1) Internal motivation is engaged in two types of rewards:

 A) to obtain cognitive stimulation.

 B) to gain insight, accomplishment or competency.

 2) External motivation comes from rewards received from external courses.


Motivation is defined as the force that energizes & sustains behavior:

Energizes: It is what initiates a behavior, behavioral pattern, or change in behavior.  Some questions are:

1) What determines the level of effort and how hard a person works? This aspect of motivation deals with the question of “What motivates people?” Directs Behavior.

2) What determines which behaviors an individual chooses? This aspect of motivation deals with the question of choice and conflict among competing behavioral alternatives.

Sustains Behavior: What determines an individual’s level of persistence with respect to behavioral patterns? This aspect of motivation deals with how behavior is sustained and stopped.

Motivation is behaviorally specific. It is more appropriate to think in terms the motivation to excel at a particular job requirement or behavior than thinking of motivation for overall motivation. Motivation drives all task in life.

Two theories of the stimulation that drive motivation:

Theory 1:

Stimulations for rewards are for one or a combination of the following reasons:

A) Inferiority complex.

B) Self-actualization.

C) Completion of a task, for the purpose of doing something else.

d) Achievement.

F) love.

Theory 2:

Expectancy theory says social needs stimulate individuals. These social needs allow us to feel good about ourselves and others and to establish and maintain relationships. The need to feel good about one’s self leads to behavior that one hopes is viewed positively by others. A slave behaves in a way that she believes pleases her Master.

The expectancy theory says that the motivational force for a certain behavior, action, or task is a function of three distinct perceptions: Expectancy, Instrumentality and Valance. Expectancy Probability: Based on the perceived effort-performance relationship.

It is the expectancy that one’s effort will lead to the desired performance and is based on experience, self-confidence, and the perceived difficulty of the performance goal. Example: If I work harder than everyone else in the plant will I produce more? Instrumentality Probability:

This is based on the perceived performance-reward relationship. The instrumentality is the belief that if one does meet performance expectations, he or she will receive a greater reward. Example: If I produce more than anyone else in the plant will I get a bigger raise or a faster promotion? Valance: The valance refers to how much value the individual personally places on the rewards. This is a function of his or her needs, goals and values. Example: Don’t I want a bigger raise? Is it worth the extra effort? Do I want a promotion? Stimulation = Activating thoughts and emotions that cause motivation = Driving force for behavior to achieve goal Activating stimulus — (Thoughts and Emotions) — Motivation — Action to complete goal – Reward (if completed).

Goals and motivation is an essential part of properly training a slave girl.