One of the things a new master does not always understand is that a slave chooses to be dominated and her personal freedom comes from enslavement. She is not happy making all the decisions and doing everything “her way”. She craves and needs a master’s guidance and control. She is free to be herself when enslaved. Some of you may have notices in the past that a slave may actually calm down and relax with she is stripped of freedom. she feels she is home when the feels her master’s control all around in her.
her freedom comes from being owned
This is not always easy for her to accept that she needs enslaved but with time she will see where her happiness lies. She feels it but does not always understand why. Often a master’s disciplne even if harsh puts her at ease and puts her in into a sense of peace. There is a calmness in being owned that the vanilla world will not understand.
In the beginning she may test her master to see if he is strong enough to actually control her and give her what she needs. Disciple is far easier for her to take than no control of a Master’s hand.
This is a subject I often take time to explan to a new master. He can move ahead and control her, guide her, set rules, set protocols, do position training and she will accept. She may be frustrated but often that is because she does not do it correctly in the beginning. As a master set your goals and don’t second guess youself. She wants your leadership and control.