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  1. this very much describes exactly what i do!!
    its almost as if this girl wrote this as she definitely tries expression of this to others.
    i can’t be Masters by someone who can’t adhere to their word. changes their mind and the rules all the time.
    wants my advise.
    i dont want to be Dominant to a Master.
    i need that leadership.
    i can’t stand being told i have as much power over my Master ad He does i, then He’s returning the power i gave up.
    it has left me confused, angry, hurt when this has happened in the past.
    i desire to be controlled, to have a strong,firm Master who doesn’t always waver.
    these men who don’t want to discipline me,for fear of making me angry… really anger me!!!
    i know what my offer of slavery mean and it burns me to be called a goddess, etc.
    i have screamed in the past “i am slave, Now do something with me,to prove You are a Master!”
    lol…but very true all the same.
    sometimes it feels like i run in circles with Dom’s who proclaim they can master this girl.
    maybe she just not for beginners?
    she Does NOT want to tell Another how to be her Master! it’s frustrating and truly hurts at times,as she wonders “Is there anybody out there??” 🙂

  2. @kyymba Thank you for a very passionate reply . I think you made your position clear.

    But this is something I do hear from subs/slaves. It is their nature to be submissive and owned. They want it. They don’t want to tell you how to own them. It is called “Topping from the bottom” What is the point if they have to do it?

  3. Sir, Thank You for a post, so very true.
    This girl hopes she wasn’t overly passionate?
    But yes the mere thought of it angered her as it has happened so many times.
    And the excitement of possibly a Master and then the disappoint, and hurt to find out it was a lesson in you, He was seeking.
    this girl is very passionate about this topic!
    Thank You Sir,

  4. Dear Cuffsmaster,

    First of all, happy New Year to you and all Masters and slaves.

    I fully agree with your post. i feel good because i am owned and i have to obey. My Master set the rules and i obey them, even when it’s difficult. Specially when it’s difficult i know my Master will guide me and bring me further on the road that is mine.
    For me my freedom comes from being a slave and accepting the full consequence that it means. i will obey my Master, whatever and that gives me in the end peace of mind.


  5. This is so true! You’re right. Being enslaved is like being at home in your comfort zone. Sometimes things just feel so overwhelming and you just want to give the power over to someone else.

  6. The awareness that we are speaking of is not so much a question of constant awareness as of an object of mind, but it is a matter of becoming one with awareness, becoming one with open space. This means becoming one with the actual things with which you are dealing as well.
    Surrendering to your Owner is not an admission of defeat or personal inadequacy. True surrender requires the courage to face the unknown and trust in the guide you have chosen to lead you into the unexplored territory. When you have found within yourself the courage and trust required to surrender that is a victory to savor.

    When There is a COMPLETE trust within the Dominant -Master and the Sub – Slave partner ,there is freedom.

    Having said that i salute you till next Time.
    Myself too, is yet learning and will always be…and that is why when you love what you are doing ,you want to be better, for yourself and for the others around you.

    With effect and no with regret ,

  7. This is so true, Sir. In finding the one whom a girl can surrender to totally there is a peace and a feeling of relief! A Master who exudes confidence and is consistent is a rare thing. But this girl has found that with persistence and not giving up He just might pop up when least expected. There is a freedom in slavery that the vanilla world will never understand. It is about letting go and becoming and it can be very freeing.

  8. think that women make better doms/mistresses than men make doms /masters
    the way I look at it is; she is in charge RELAX, she owns you she owns the situation RELAX. this works for me and probably only me because it does challenge social convention. but one of the things that really works for me in the BDSM life style is that I feel free to find what works for me is not what most people are doing

    • For me thats true but not necessarily for everybody. Depends on what You expect or want from the relationship.
      If you are very masochistic , then male doms are your turn….dont want to generalise now….but they tend to be.

  9. This article resonates, within this one. The loss of being what this one truly is pierces the soul, and reminds me of the loss of it all.
    (i) need to change how I’m addressing to make better sense and to see if this can be expressed coming from within.
    (i) have been a natural slave all my life. (i) cannot explain why, (i) can just say I’ve done years of research and counseling of others to know it can be a inherited trait. (i) have been under ownership for a total of nearly 15 years, 5 of it was 24/7 steel collar chained. (Me/us) is a multiple as in MPD, all are slave in their own way but it’s my/our true nature, (i) also belly dance and wear bells as well.

    Going into my 6th year of 24/7 the Master up and left, across the country, he became an alcoholic, there was no warning just got a message from a hometown friend he was there, (i) had a implosion, nervous breakdown.
    5 years ago (i) was faced with a horrible stalker, that claimed to be a slave but really isn’t, (long story) however, (i) was so disgusted in what being slave was by everything and a near simotanious onset of a severe illness (i) felt like I was dropped off a cliff again.
    This one buried the need and acceptance of our true nature, and everything pierced my mind so hard (i) thought a couple alters were gone, and it didn’t help that (i) had to move away, back into my Midwest home with my kids dad.
    This one thought (i) had the need to be what we are buried. Till recently, now (i) feel like I’m in a room full of mirrors, my others are self dominating me from within, giving (us) permissions, but this won’t last, the OUT of control self destructive one will surface.
    Whom ever could say being a true nature slave was easy is so wrong. Some are born, some can try to stop but it’s no easier than telling a man or a woman to stop being a man or woman.

    (i) guess (i ) really didn’t make much of a point, perhaps me/us just felt the need to prove to myself in writing (i) can’t deny what we are no matter the horrible things that’s happen are.
    This one just counsels now to be a part and share my knowledge, someday I might even write my book…..but (i) can’t deny our nature anymore and I feel utterly useless. Thank you Sir, for being here and just letting us put our two cents in.

  10. All of the comments strike a chord in me – defining what I have trouble expressing, but feel deeply. Thank you for helping me to understand a little more of this desire/need.

  11. This girl longs to have access to her old Master. He was the ONLY male who ever accepted her heart, mind, body, and soul. He was her everything and she was thrilled and overjoyed to be His slave. But time and outside life can force changes on a relationship. He moved away and she has.’t seen Him in person in over 5 years. He was the ONLY person to accept this ones heart and ALL of who and what she is. Without Him she has been lost for although others have claimed they would be her Master, they wouldn’t return her love and for this one that is worse than losing her TRUE MASTER. She not only needs disciplined but she needs loved in return. She sits and cry from the loneliness and feeling unworthy of being loved by the New Dom and they have no concept of what it means to be a Master. This one wants to give everything she is, everything He could ever want our desire, take any punishment or torture if that pleases Him, with only one request, to be loved. Because without that it’s nothing more than just sex. The bond is broken or missing that makes it complete, and she is left feeling alone and even more frightened than ever before.

  12. This post is a perfect example of why most relationships fail. That reason is lack of communication. Both Cuffsmaster and the subs who have replied have each made critical errors in judgment.
    Cuffsmaster, overall, I agree with your post. Dominants are very prone to giving up the power given to them by their slaves. However, you have made two critical errors. First, this pit fall is not the exclusive domain of new Masters. Every Master has to deal with this problem with every new slave. Second, you failed to acknowledge that every relationship is fluid. It is in constant flux. Every Master must adapt to the moment. And that means there will always be a certain degree of inconsistency.
    Slaves, I understand your feeling and I have sympathy for your position. That being said, you also have made two critical errors in judgment. First, you assume that if we Dominants ask you questions, that we are giving up power. That idea is false. We cannot read your minds. We have to ask questions so that we can adapt to your needs. Second, a change of rules or strategy, does not mean we are wavering or wishy-washy. It means we are acting on your responses. We are attempting to adapt to your needs. We do this because you WILL run if we push you to hard for to long.
    The answer to this conundrum is good communication. Each partner needs to be completely honest and clear about what they want and need.
    Dominants, you will never get away from the need to ask questions. So be clear about why you are asking your questions. If you feel that there is a need to change the rules, then make sure that you clearly express why you are making changes. When you do make changes, keep them small. Slaves will adapt to small changes better than grand, sweeping changes.
    Subs: Your physical, mental and emotional condition is in a constant state of flux. When your Dominant asks you questions, be sure your answers are clear. Tell them what you enjoy, what you do not enjoy and what you want to endure.

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