Mush­room

I received this email from mb and with her approval opened an account and pub­lished it as a post. yes I knew LD. He was well known and missed.

The email from mb is as follows:

Dear Sir,

I believe we may know each other. I belonged to L.D. who dies quite a while back. I’m

sub­mis­sion

cur­rently in a rela­tion­ship with another dom­i­nant man (what a sur­prise, really) and since we will soon be get­ting mar­ried and I will be mov­ing in with him, i was look­ing for some point­ers to help both of us. While I’ve come across your web­site before and found it very use­ful, I thought I would finally write to you and make some com­ments. Please keep in mind that I am a queer sub­mis­sive woman who has on occa­sion dom­i­nated oth­ers, that I am African-American and do not use terms like mas­ter and slave in my rela­tion­ship, that I have a back­ground in cul­tural anthro­pol­ogy and that my for­mer Sir had a back­ground in social psy­chol­ogy, and that I do not see the dom­i­nant male/submissive female dyad is being the new plus ultra of BDSM; it’s just one of many flavors.

1. I con­grat­u­late you on writ­ing your excel­lent web­site. The ways in which you use Adler­ian and other psy­cho­log­i­cal tech­niques to explain pos­si­ble ways of train­ing is superb. The only nig­gle I have (and it’s a small one) is in the REBT sec­tion; philo­soph­i­cally I don’t think it’s wrong to dis­cuss with a slave/submissive whether slav­ery is a form of hap­pi­ness. It isn’t for every­one, at least not in an obvi­ous way. I would argue that we are all slaves to some­thing, and that if a woman has prob­lems with think­ing of her­self as a slave it might be that this prac­tice is not a good fit for her. Read the rest of this entry →