B.E.S.T. on TV News about Non- Consensual slavery in North Dakota


On 2/4/2014, I received emails informing me that the B.E.S.T. website was discussed on a KVLY-TV, Valley News Live, a local TV News show in Fargo North Dakota. The emails pointed out that the News story focused on abuse and claimed it was part of bdsm culture. They also claim that a domestic violence abusers cult  exists there. They also implied this cult used my website as some sort of go-by.

I will try to state my case in a way that can be verified with evidence from other sources not connected with BDSM when possible.  In some cases, I will link to them or the actual document on my site that were twisted to fit the news story they want.   In addition I will show some willful lies intended to distort facts.

I have no idea why the facts  were not verified before the story ran.

major updated on 2/8/14:

I put the summary first because I know the NEW ROOM will not read the whole thing



This is a Short version for KVLY-TV, Valley News Live because  I know they will not take the time and energy to read the detailed long version that follows this summary.


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domestic service - naked slave carrying a vase

Service – the slave’s Vessel

Folks,  this is intended to be a loving relationship based on trust between consenting adult.  Anything else is abuse and not what this website is about.  In fact it is not what the BDSM lifestyle is about.  Torture to obtain submission is has no place in the lifestyle and a violation of law.

The slave’s Vessel -  A slave is trained to serve her master in the daylight as well as in his bed at night. Her domestic or other service is essential to the success of their lives. Every slave needs a vessel which she can fill and serve her master

domestic service - naked slave carrying a vessel

domestic service – carrying a vessel Image c. 1910 by Lehnert & Landrock

She serves, obeys and pleases her master. Not every act of service needs to be ordered by her Master. She just knows the vessel is empty and fills it for her Master.

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slave table

Taming of the Wild Mustang

I write this under the direction of my Master. It was in a conversation we had today discussing how I have grown, where I have come from, and where I am today that I am instructed to write this post. I do not submit that I know everything, or know it all, because that is far from the case, in this or any other matter. However, I speak from experience, insight, gut wrenching intuition and an understanding of my slavery

taming a slave girl

slave table – taming a slave – Image by Derek Bowden

Two years ago (or in that vicinity of time) I sent an email to Master outlining my heart, my life, my fears, and my nightmares.   I was always expected to be the strong, independent, capable woman, and although I do that with ease in my day to day life, I knew there was a part of me that was not complete. And it was in that first email that I shared those thoughts and feelings.

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slave safeword confusion

Hello world! – a new safeword

safeword for slaves 

I am going to give slaves a safeword. Yes, I know many don’t believe in safewords. I think of them more as signals to a master instead of meaning you stop.

I think I’ve found the perfect safeword. I am borrowing it from our friends in New Zealand.

It is:


confused at first before learning it

But of course, any safe word must be pronounced accurately and clearly to be understood. How could a Master possibly know it is your safeword if it is not stated clearly and correctly?  You’d just have to keep beating her if it is not stated correctly. 


From Wikipedia:

“The name… “Taumata­whakatangihanga­koauau­o­tamatea­turi­pukakapiki­maunga­horo­nuku­pokai­whenua­kitanatahu”, .. (means) .. “The summit where Tamatea, the man with the big knees, the climber of mountains, the land-swallower who travelled about, played his nose flute to his loved one”. At 85 letters, it has been listed in the Guinness World Records as the longest place name.”

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Welcome to the Official B.E.S.T. slave training guide & B.D.S.M. Resource:

Clamped tit image by B.E.S.T. member and contributor Derek Bowden

Image by B.E.S.T. member & contributor Derek Bowden

Welcome to the original B.E.S.T. slave training theory website in operation since 2002.

The B.E.S.T. guide details the art, psychology and science of consensual  slave training and the BDSM lifestyle. Topics are designed to increase knowledge of slave training techniques and methods, behavior, management and hypnosis.   In all cases this website focuses on a relationship between consenting adults.

We examines more than behavioral changes in the training program, Goals are set for a slave. Training has four areas (Behavior, Emotions & Sensations, Self-Image and Thoughts.)  Additional bdsm topics like hypnotic slave training, bondage, punishment, discipline and training schedules are also discussed.

FOR MORE DISCUSSIONS or START YOUR OWN, GO TO FORUMS. You will find the forums in the top menu under the heading “Groups & Forums”

If you have stories or poems that you’d like to share with this group, contact me. We can discuss my publishing them here in the blog. If you want to learn about bdsm, and slave training this is a place to start.

Please feel free to browse and enjoy the information that is here on slave training. Our goal is to help people interested in this aspect of the lifestyle. There are many people who have this interest and when a slave girl chooses to become a slave, she needs to know she will be trained properly. The resource’s for this are all in here. Along with forums to share ideas. Well all can learn from each other.

The goals to be accomplished are education and informed knowledge in this part of a wonderful lifestyle. A slave needs to learn the way and a Master, needs to lead strongly. So; have a seat; dig in and enjoy. Feel free to contact the management at any time, under the CONTACT header button.

Thank You!

recovery from penalty

B.E.S.T. slave training’s recovery from a Google Panda and Penguin attack.

A Note to Member of B.E.S.T.

For 10 years B.E.S.T. slave training  was ranked on the front page   for a Google search result of  “slave training.”      I was the top site and remain on the front page as others came and went.    Not being an expert on Google ranking or SEO I just enjoyed the ride.  I knew I was doing something right to be on top.   If it was not broke I was not going to fix it.

Then one day in 2012,  I started getting hit by Google’s  Panda and Penguin penalties.   I went from page 1 to page 60 or below.    I would recover some ranking only  to be hit by another wave.    I refused to give in and continued to battle.  The major problem is that they will not tell you what caused the problem and you have to research and spend hours correcting.     Even after you figure out something that might fix it you have to wait weeks for the change to take effect (or it seems like it anyway).

Well,  maybe with all the changes to the website including many behind thes cenes changes my  ranking is back to Page 1.    Today, I am ranked second from the top  on page 1.      The Google God’s seem to be happy again with B.E.S.T.     The goal is to remain on page one.

This is great for members because it means we are among the very top in Google and Bing ranking and have a much larger audience.

Target whip for bdsm play

My new Target Whip & Dragontail for bdsm play:

I purchased a target whip for bdsm play this weekend. I already own a 4 foot bullwhip and a 5 foot snake whip, but I really like this new one. I have only been practicing with it and have not used it yet but look forward to seeing the marks it leaves. I do not have a slave’s opinion yet on how it feels.

A bullwhip has a handle, bradded whip, leather fall and popper.

bullwhip for bdsm play


The snake whip does not have the stiff handle but does have the fall and popper normally associated with whips.





snake whip for bdsm

snake whip



A signal whip does not have a handle or leather fall and is more accurate than a snake whip. The signal whip often has a smaller diameter than a bullwhip or snake whip. Many signal whips are stiff. One difference between a snake whip and signal whip is that a signal whip has a braided in cracker (popper) instead of the popper being attached to a fall on a bullwhip.

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kneeling slave by China Hamilton

The New DSM-5 and slave training and Sadomasochism


DSM-5 and BDSM Today

How BDSM and slave training can be affected by the new version of the DSM-5. What this can mean and what it does not change. The American Psychiatric Association (APA) published a new version of it’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. The new version is referred to as the DSM-5. Our interest in the DSM-5 is now it redefines BDSM and to a lesser extent slave training. Sadomasochism is not a disorder if certain triggers are not found in the therapist’s evaluation.


The DSM-5 makes changes that, over time, will have a positive effect on the way the world views B.D.S.M. and slave training. In fact, kinky sex in general will greatly benefit from the changes in wording. To all those in the lifestyle that have taken an active role in helping change the APA’s view from the DSM-I to the DSM-5, THANK YOU!!!


Be Happy with your kink

Prior to the DSM-5, the APA defined sexual behavior acts not solely focused on the genitals or breasts as paraphilias. The word Paraphillas first appears in publication in the DSM-III and is defined as an unusual sex act.

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Power of Attorney and Living Wills for slaves:

Power of Attorney and living will for a slave:

Power of attorney’s and living wills; these are not subjects that many want to think about in a Master/slave relationship. But being a good Master means you consider and manage such matters. The slave girl is your responsibility, and this is part of proper slave management & care.

Both the power of attorneys (POA) and a Will are more relevant for a 24/7 slave than someone you occasionally see. In fact, I would not recommend them if you don’t live with her.

slave's will

slave’s will and POA

Remember that legal rights are not laid out in a Master/slave contract. A slave contract is NOT legally binding only morally binding between the parties. You must have proper legal documents to exercise legal rights over her affairs. Don’t believe a slave contract will acts as a will or power of attorney, it will not. I would not recommend that you try to include a power of attorney or will in your slave contract. A power of attorney should be a separate document unclouded with the conditions set forth in a typical slave contract.

Keep a POA simple and easy for a court to enforce if needed. Why complicate it for you or the Court? When you need it enforced you probably don’t have time to discuss unrelated issues in the slave contract. Don’t take a chance on voiding the power of attorney, Living Will or Will by including them in an otherwise unenforceable document. Keep it separate. Don’t take a chance.

Power of Attorney and living will: Granting Master authority:

Durable and medical power of attorneys (POA):

There are two types of power of attorney that should be prepared and signed that grants a master legal authority. They are the 1) durable power of attorney and the 2) power to manage medical issues.

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Jealousy when Master adding second slave to family – Polyamory

Jealousy and adding a second slave to the poly family.  Jealousy is the major killer of the dream of a polyamorous relationship.  Because another slave

whipping a slave

ready for whipping by Derek Bowden

is present and seen interacting with her master, jealousy will go seriously awry if not checked.  It’s the slave’s imagination & fears instead of reason & facts causing issues.   It’s often caused by a Master’s lack of preplanning to prepare his trainee.   However sometimes jealousy is almost ingrained and a deeper analysis using The B.E.S.T. slave training theory will facilitate  overcoming it.

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