A slave said to me in a email: “I am asserting with dominance (!!) my right to love myself and in that way to be the best slave I can be for my beautiful Mistress.”
CUFFSMASTER: Here are parts of three Emails I received from a slave. He gave me permission to share his words with you. One of the things that struck me was his “asserting his dominance — his right to love himself.” I really think his words may hit home to others that struggle with their acceptance of their submissive nature. Never mind what he says about me but look at what he says about himself. I find it great and so glad he shared it for us to enjoy.
He states in his first email: I am a male submissive, and have spent years feeling completely paralysed by fear and self-loathing of my submissive nature. This has nothing to do with my being a self-destructive person and everything, I think, to do with the pressures society places on men to be macho or alpha.
It’s not always been an easy ride, however I have concluded, in the end that being submissive is no different from being straight or gay. It’s who I am. I recently started serving a beautiful Mistress for the first time in my life. She is the single most loving and caring person you could wish to meet and I am very lucky to have found her.
I’m writing to you, however, to let you know that your website and the information on it, which is so beautifully presented and structured, helped me in the most profound way possible to be happy within myself, and to take that first, difficult step. I am a slave, but I am now being dominant in my own mind about that!! That is to say — I am allowing myself to be .. To just be… And to go with the flow.
I am asserting with dominance (!!) my right to love myself and in that way to be the best slave I can be for my beautiful Mistress.
Your article touched me and moved me. Whoever you are, you are a really special person and you are allowing people to realise their dreams and not be ashamed of them. With love, thank you so much
I know your site is more about the master / female slave relationship, most of the info can easily be reversed and it worked well for me
CUFFSMASTER: I emailed him back and this is part of his second email to me.
Yes, you are exactly correct. Being submissive does not equal being weak. That was I think one of my big problems for the longest time. But accepting your submissive nature makes you stronger than you ever could have thought you would be. Since doing this my entire life has become so much happier. I am more confident and happy with myself. I am also a lot more assertive and take a lot less bullshit from people than I did only a few months ago. I think this is because I know who I am, and where I’m going and I am at peace with that.
Thanks for replying to me — and also for the quotes which were amazing.
Submission as a slave is not weakness
CUFFSMASTER: A reply to my third email from him
HE says again:
given everything then, I think it’s such a shame that there must be so many submissive people or there who struggle their entire lives to accept their nature and realise its actually pretty cool and not something to run away from. I am completely submissive, and it permeates every aspect of my existence from my ‘normal’ life to that which I share with my mistress. I have no idea what it might be like to be a dominant person however I have an idea the struggle would be less difficult, if there is even one!! Could be wrong about that though.
Anyway — you’re welcome to use my emails, however please do not under any circumstances use my email address anywhere — or my name