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Training, but because many of the concepts are similar to B.E.S.T. slave Training it is included. (In fact, this may help you understand B.E.ST. slave Training since many of the concepts are derived from Adler). (A.S.T. is adapted, in part, from “Therapeutic Psychology 3rd edition” (1977) L. M. Brammer & E. L. Shostrom.) There is a newer book currently being used entitled “Therapeutic Counseling and Psychotherapy”.

The purpose of Actualizing slave Training (A.S.T.) is to realize all the potential within a slave and continue her actualizing into a responsible and joyful servant. Because there is not one stand-alone philosophy related to human development, A.S.T. uses many concepts from several theories.

AST is not an independent theory but an eclectic theory. It differs from most eclectic psychological methods in that it has an underlying general philosophy of life that is used to weave the techniques together into a sensible unit.

This is not a slave training manual; therefore detailed procedures in training are only lightly discussed. It is intended to encourage thought about theoretical concepts for training as opposed to detailing actual procedures.


DEFINITION OF SELF ACTUALIZATION as used in slave training:


A. S. T. assumes that a slave strives for healthiness or self-actualization. The slave has basic (biological and psychological) needs that have to be fulfilled in order to be free enough to feel the desire for the higher levels of realization. The slave has a natural capacity to seek her needs. Often much of this drive toward slavery is hidden within her subconscious mind. In A.S.T. the slave’s actualization needs revolve around her Master and his training.

The slave has an internal drive to become the best possible slave she can be and at the center of this is her connection to her Master. This submissive nature becomes her driving force and becomes more powerful the more it is accessed and directed by her Master. A Master is the key to this submissive nature becoming correctly directed towards slavery.

The slave has within her a pressure pushing her:

 1) Toward unity with her Master.

 2) Toward submission.

 3) Toward an identity that is defined by her slavery.

 4) Toward seeing the truth and beauty of her submissive needs that are within herself rather than being blind and repressed.

 5) Toward being creative in her service to her Master.

 6) Toward being good.

 7) Toward being owned; body, mind and spirit.


She is pressed toward good values, serenity, kindness, courage, honesty, love, unselfishness, devotion to her Master and goodness. The pressure is directed around the feeling she has for her Master and her submissive nature.

The slave’s self-actualization is, in a large part, centered on a belief in the rightness of her decision to be the property of her Master and a trust in the guiding hand of her Master.

A slave becomes more actualized when:

1) She is open to new experiences.

2) She trusts her Master and accepts her need for slavery.

3) She accepts that her evaluations come from her Master and this becomes her major source of self-evaluation.

4) She has a willingness to grow.


Developing these characteristics is the basic goal of training.


Overview of Actualization slave training theory:


Actualizing slave Training is based upon an approach to psychology that integrates Gestalt, Behavioral, cognitive, various humanistic influences, analytical, Reality and Adlerian thinking. Some of the predominant philosophies are Maslow’s self-actualization, Lazarus’ multimodal theory, May on human encounter, and Perls’ theories on perception and awareness. It interconnects thinking, emotions and behavior and therefore is considered holistic. The focus of A.S.T. is on actualization goals and problem-solving in the present and future, but recognizes that the past can be used to help understand the present and prepare for the future.

Assumptions of Actualization slave training theory:

The slave is a unique person that seeks actualization through being owned and by serving.

A.S.T. is future oriented and is described as what she is “becoming” however it takes place in moment-to-moment growth. The “here and now” is the intermediate focus.

The future is largely undetermined and is open to freedom of choice. The training revolves around her making a choice to grant her Master control and giving that freedom of choice to her Master. She becomes more and more directed by her Master.

Because of the undetermined nature of the future, the responsibility for her growth rests on her Master’s shoulders. The final decisions of life choices are owned by her Master.

Behavior is learned and changes require an active learning process. she must do more than just learn what her Master wishes from her and what behavior he likes, she must live it.

Actualization is achieved only by social interaction with her Master and others in the world around her. Action is required.

Each person has paradoxical states of polar opposites that express and are forced to awareness and action in the actualization process.

A person thinks, feels, and then acts. Faulty thinking results in faulty behavior.

A slave has to be viewed as a holistic being that has thoughts, feelings, self-image, and behavior. None are independent of the other. Just changing her behavior alone is not enough.


Goals of Actualization slave Training:



The goal of ownership is to establish the Master/slave relationship though awareness and consent. After she consents to being owned her self-actualization comes from pleasing and serving her Master. Her achieving proficiency in her slavery is the driving force.



This is described as a complete openness to experience and a decrease in defensiveness. Spontaneity is an expression of one’s own uniqueness. Creativity is a consequence of spontaneity.


Living in the here and now:

Slave Training is done for the most part in present tense. You don’t anticipate problems with your slave. You correct the problem before you. Here is where the slave becomes aware and accepts her own nature. Behavior unbecoming a slave is corrected.



The Master teaches and provides conditions for the slave to develop “self-confidence” that slavery is what she wants in her life. The slave must learn to trust her own judgment that the loss of freedom is a way of developing her personal self-worth. In conjunction, she must learn to trust the judgment of her Master, know that his goals are worth her attaching herself to and accept being directed as a slave. Trust in her Master’s direction and the acceptance of her Master’s rules of slavery are key to deepening her slavery.



The objective is to create a sense of aliveness and responsiveness in her slavery. This awareness includes experiencing a wide range of behavioral possibilities relating to slavery, therefore allowing her to get in touch with her innermost feelings. This encourages a freedom from emotional restrictions.



Allowing the slave’s submissive nature to be fully exposed and practiced before her Master.


Responsible actions:

The slave learns to make judgments and take actions that enhance her own slavery. She learns to give the responsibility for her choices in life to her Master. She makes a choice to allow her Master to choose for her.



The goal is to increase the effectiveness of the slave and to meet the Master’s increasing expectancies and skill requirements that enable her to become a better slave serving her Master. A slave is judged upon her service to her Master.


EIGHT WAYS TO SELF ACTUALIZE (an adaptation from Maslow):

 1) Experience things fully, vividly and selflessly. Throw yourself into experiencing your slavery, concentrate on it fully and let it totally absorb you.

 2) Life is an ongoing process of choosing between safety (out of fear and need for defense) and risk (for the sake of progress and growth). Make the growth choice a dozen times a day.

 3) Let the self-emerge. Try to shut out the external clues as to what you should think, feel, say, and so on and let your experience enable you to say what you truly feel.

 4) When in doubt, be honest. If you look into yourself and are honest you will see that the giving of responsibility to your Master makes you whole. Giving responsibility is a major part leading to self-actualizing.

 5) Listen to your own tastes. Be prepared to be unpopular.

 6) Use your intelligence and work to do well at the things you want to do, no matter how insignificant they seem to be. Slavery does not mean that a slave rejects her own intelligence, but instead directs it toward slavery.

7) Make peak experiencing more likely: get rid of illusions and false notions. Learn what you are good at and what not your potential is. Trust your Master to develop you.

8) Find out who you are, what you are, what you like and don’t like, what is good and what is bad for you, where you are going and most importantly what your mission is. Opening up yourself in this way means identifying internal defenses and then finding the courage to reveal them to your Master and give them up.


Human development:

1) Growth is progressive and cumulative.

2) Growth is integrative and disintegrative.

3) Growth depends on maturing and learning.


Seven Sets of Change:

1) Establishing a need for slavery.

2) Establishing a Master/slave relationship.

3) Determining goals and the structure of training.

4) Working on problems and goals.

5) Facilitating awareness.

6) Planning a course of action.

7) Evaluating outcomes.


The above concepts are taken in part from: Therapeutic Psychology: Fundamentals of Counseling and Psychotherapy 3rd Edition. (1977) (Brammer & Shostrom). They have been adapted to slave training.


Maslow’s “Hierarchy of Needs:”


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Below is a brief summary of Maslow’s hierarchy of need theory. A.S.T. is not completely based upon Moslow’s thoughts, but understanding his concepts is important. He believed that every person seeks self-actualization.

1) The physiological needs: Oxygen, water, protein, salt, sugar, needs to be active and to rest, to avoid pain, to have sex and so on.

2) The safety and security needs: Finding safe circumstances, stability and protection; a need for structure, order and some limits.

3) The love and belonging needs: Friends, a sweetheart, children, affection and social needs.

4) The esteem needs: Need for status, fame, glory, recognition, attention, reputation, appreciation, dignity and even dominance. The negative version of these needs is low self-esteem and inferiority complexes. Maslow felt that Adler was really onto something when he proposed that these were at the root of many, if not most, of our psychological problems.

5) Self-actualization: Maslow stated that self-actualized individuals, as a general rule, displayed the following characteristics:


A) Reality-centered: They could differentiate what is fake and dishonest from what is real.


B) Problem-centered: They treated life’s difficulties as problems demanding solutions, not as personal troubles to be railed at or surrendered to.


C) Different perception of means and ends – The ends don’t necessarily justify the means, the means could be ends themselves and that the means — the journey — was often more important than the ends.


D) Need for privacy: Meaning we’re comfortable being alone.


E) Independent of culture and environment: Relying instead on their own experiences and judgments.


F) Resisted enculturation – they are not susceptible to social pressure — they are, in fact, nonconformists in the best sense.


G) Democratic values – open to ethnic and individual variety.


H) Intimate personal relations – with a few close friends and family members, rather than more shallow relationships with many people.