slave Train­ing: The fol­low­ing are some sug­ges­tions to make learn­ing to become a slave easier:

1 ) Lis­ten, observe and ask ques­tions dur­ing slave train­ing. Since there are new rules and norms that may be unfa­mil­iar to you, lis­ten care­fully to ver­bal com­mu­ni­ca­tion and observe non-verbal com­mu­ni­ca­tion care­fully and try to put them in proper con­text. Take note of all things that please and dis­please your Mas­ter. If pos­si­ble, observ­ing oth­ers is a great way to learn.  slave train­ing involves pay­ing atten­tion to detail.

You should not assume that you always know what is going on or that you under­stand what you hear or see. In order to be an effec­tive slave, you must know what is expected of you. Fail­ing to ask ques­tions is often a mis­take a new trainee makes. COMMUNICATION IS KEY TO SLAVERY.

2 ) Don’t overly eval­u­ate or judge events or overly crit­i­cize your­self. You are learn­ing a new way of doing and see­ing things. Com­par­i­son to the vanilla way a rela­tion­ship works does not always apply to a BDSM rela­tion­ship. A slave is owned as prop­erty and as such must obey some­times with­out judg­ing the com­mand given to her. Your Mas­ter is to become your key source of eval­u­a­tion and judg­ment of the cor­rect­ness of your actions.

3 ) Be curi­ous. To expe­ri­ence slav­ery and to learn from it, it is impor­tant to be open to new expe­ri­ences. The more you are will­ing to explore, the more you will learn.

4 ) Expect some anx­i­ety and frus­tra­tion. Learn­ing to func­tion as a slave is not easy and it is nat­ural to feel some anx­i­ety and frus­tra­tion. If you rec­og­nize that these are nor­mal parts of the expe­ri­ence, you may be able to deal with them more effec­tively. Open­ness about your feel­ings will also help. Learn­ing slav­ery involves not only learn­ing your Master’s rules, but it also includes learn­ing new habits and alter­ing some old habits. Learn­ing new habits takes a repet­i­tive effort.

5 ) Become involved. The more you put into the expe­ri­ence of becom­ing a slave the more you will learn from it. Take the time to study the rules your Mas­ter has estab­lished for you and prac­tice the skills he requires of you. Don’t expect your Mas­ter to directly guide your every learn­ing process; actively make efforts to learn and improve your skills on your own.

6 ) Be open. In slave train­ing you will reveal your thoughts and emo­tions to your Mas­ter. Reveal­ing your inner most thoughts and feel­ings is dif­fi­cult for most peo­ple. Pre­pare your­self for this level of openness.

7 ) Accept crit­i­cism. You will be expected to change old behav­iors and atti­tudes. You may very well be chal­lenged in your actions, atti­tudes and beliefs. As a slave, your behav­ior is con­trolled by your Mas­ter. There­fore, you can expect him to be crit­i­cal of your present behav­ior and expect change. 

8 ) Expect change. Your Mas­ter will re-educate you and re-orient you to fit his needs. This will require changes in your behav­ior, emo­tions and thoughts. Pre­pare your­self for change. Train­ing a slave is often called a mold­ing process. Expect to be molded as your Mas­ter desires.  Accept that change will hap­pen and you have no choice.

9 ) Be devoted. The impor­tance of devo­tion to your Mas­ter can’t be under­stated. It pro­vides the foun­da­tion for future growth and is a source of pride for your Master.

10 ) Expect and accept obe­di­ence. Be pre­pared to learn to be obe­di­ent. A slave’s duty is to obey her Mas­ter. Often, in the begin­ning, you will be pushed. Obe­di­ence is a state of mind, there­fore, it is learned. Obe­di­ence pro­vides a foun­da­tion for more advances in learn­ing and improve­ment of your skills. Prac­tice being con­sis­tent in your obedience.

by Cuff­s­mas­ter