B.E.S.T. slave Training

'How  to' section

Re-education and Re-socialization

The Master

The process of training for a Master always involves leadership and accepting responsibility.  If you have the power to make decisions for your slave, then you are responsible for those decisions.  A Master can’t delegate his responsibility for leadership and the responsibility of his actions.

It is often said that when a Master/slave relationship fails or a slave is poorly trained, the first place to look is at the Master and his personal conduct.   A slave does not control training, a Master does.   Granted, this is an oversimplification, of why some Master/slave relationships don’t work, but it is often true. 

A Master’s Central Goals in Training

The four central goals discussed below are not independent of each other. Interaction always occurs between them.    

The Master’s training is structured around four central objectives: 

1)  Establishing a proper Master/slave relationship

This involves establishing trust, basic submissive behavioral skills and obedience.  The Master will become her authority figure, teacher, guide, source of evaluation and counselor.   It also includes exploring the dynamics of the slave. In short, it establishes the Dominant/submissive relationship and provides the ground work for future training. 

This is the first and maybe most important step in training. It's where the submissive nature of the slave becomes directed at obeying and serves her Master. 

 There is no one skill that is necessary to build the proper Master/slave relationship.  You must be transparent in your plans for training and long-term goals, be consistent in training, take charge, and probably many more skills that I can’t think of right now.  

 So, what does a Master need to do? First, he needs a clear philosophy of what a Master is, what a slave is, how he wishes her trained and how he will do it.     After that, he needs to develop clear rules, protocols, and slave positions for his slave to follow and training procedures.    Believe me, it is much easer if you do. 

 Discipline and punishment are issues he should have already thought about before starting any training of a slave.

 2) Exploring and assessing the slave

 Because Slave training can involve intense emotional experiences, it is necessary that a Master have good basic knowledge of what events occurred in the slave's past and her present behavior.   He should know any area that might cause emotional trauma for the slave.

Transparency or openness is necessary.  It is a learned skill and can be developed by the slave.   It is also important that a Master be open about his on views and past with his slave.

A Master examines the slave’s core beliefs, past experiences, goals, motivations, values and personal history.   Direct questioning, written questionnaires and testing can be used to aid the Master's understanding of his slave.   The Master is looking to uncover the slave's strengths, weaknesses, assets, and beliefs that will be used in training as well as those that will interfere with slavery. 

It is Important that a slave fill out a good BDSM questionnaire and a list of basic questions about her past and early training.   However, this is only a place to start exploring your slave.  

 It should be noted that this is a process that may take a long time.  It may be like pealing an onion.  Layer after layer is removed revealing more of her as training continues. 

This is powerful information. Remember, knowledge is power.  You become armed and dangerous with the knowledge you have gained about your slaves emotions.  A Master must use good judgment and use this information wisely.  The purpose of obtaining the information is to build a stronger Master/slave relationship not destroy it.

 Looking at it from the other side, it can be a powerful tool in your favor.  If you properly use the information provided by the slave, it builds her trust in your abilities to train her.  She becomes even more willing to disclose emotionally charged information to you.    

 3)  Developing the slave’s insight and purpose 

In general, it can be said that a slave’s purpose is to serve her Master. A Master should clearly detail his goals to the slave and be willing to take the time to show her what behavior is expected of her.   

Every behavior in human life has a purpose.  The goals the Master has for her training are revealed.  The slave’s goals, beliefs, and behaviors are explored and interpretations are made of them.  When these become known they provide insight into the motivations that operate the slave’s life and provide a means of adjusting them to match her Master’s needs.  Goal matching and development continues throughout training. 

 In this phase, many things happen.  Conscious thought processes can change, resistance can be challenged, and the underlying reasons for feelings and behavior are examined.  In some cases, unconscious processes are examined using hypnosis.

The development of goals by the Master and the continuing disclosure of the goals to his slave are done for the following reasons:

1)        Changing core beliefs (private logic)

Obviously, she is a submissive and wishes to have a Dominant in her life, but she may have false expectation based upon no prior experience or she may have bad experiences in former BDSM relationships. Establishing realistic and obtainable goals is necessary and, in addition, a realistic understanding of slavery is necessary.   Transparency is necessary in examining beliefs.  

Because the slave already has a submissive nature, in the relationship between her and her Master most changes in core beliefs deal with increasing acceptance of slavery and changing her behavior.  This is accomplished by challenging beliefs (REBT) and education.

Having the slave research areas and prepare essays is a useful tool in examining her thinking.  Communication with other slaves is another way to further her development. 

Having a slave act as a slave, even though her thoughts have not caught up with her behavior, is also a powerful tool.  This is the “as if” concept of training. 

 2)        Confronting resistance so the Master and slave goals can be aligned

Resistance to some changes is to be expected. Internal resistance is an attempt by the slave to retreat from her Master’s efforts to explore and alter behavior or beliefs.  It is anxiety associated with a change in life status or attitude.  The faster the slave is exposed to change the more the resistance increases. External resistance can be caused by anxiety about being dependent or close to another person. 

Generally the total acceptance of a Master as the governing authority in the relationship involves elements of both internal and external resistance. In the Master/slave relationship the slave does not have a choice of behavior and understanding the theory of Cognitive dissonance is helpful.   Cognitive dissonance says that  "when a slave's attitude conflicts with other personal beliefs or the behavior her Master requires, it causes a mental discomfort (conflict and/or resistance).   This motivates her to change either her attitude or behavior to reduce dissonance." 

A Master controls the slave's behavior therefore her only option is to change her attitude in order to reduce the mental conflict.   She is "helpless" to change her behavior because it is determined by her Master.  She has given her Master the "legitimate power" to control her behavior therefore her only option is changing her attitude.

This is why discipline training is important in slave training.  A Master works to control a slave's body by controlling her space, time, physical actions, privacy and relationships with others.   Through training he is ever increasing his control of her behavior therefore causing her to change her attitude to accept his authority.  A Master works hard to instill a feeling of helplessness to change behavior.

.(see Resistance and Reactance)  and (REBT) 

 3)        Exploring the purpose of feelings, behavior or difficulties that interfere with or block slave development. 

Interpretations of the slave’s direction in life, goals and purposes, core beliefs and current behavior are part of this step.   Often exploring the reason behind current behavior and attitude is the most effective method of change.  

The major overall insight is that the slave learns she no longer has a separate freewill from her Master's wishes and has no right of refusal to him.  The slave’s purpose is to serve her Master and she is judged on how well she serves.   It may be told to her many times turning training, but the actual process of experiencing it is more important.

All behavior has a purpose.  If a slave is acting in a way that is not what her Master wishes, there is a reason behind the current behavior.   Again, transparency is necessary in exploring the slave’s feelings that cause bad behavior.

 4)    Re-education and reorientation of the slave

 Re-education is learning and practicing new norms, rules and expectations for the slave to meet the desires of her Master.

 A Master’s goals for the education process are to: 

1)  foster a slave’s re-socialization  -- Provide her with the knowledge of what is expected of her.  In other words, she is taught how to serve obey and please him.   She learns what behaviors and attitudes her Master likes and what makes him happy.  Just knowing how to behave is not enough.  The new behavior must become part of her natural actions. 

 2)  overcome a slave’s negative feelings in order for her to feel “at home” in her slavery -- This involves more than just behavioral training.  Emotions, self-image and thoughts are considered.   This may mean showing her that her resistance to change will not be accepted or it may mean simply reassuring her that she is pleasing you by obeying.    As often stated, transparency or openness is necessary and a slave must realize that her thoughts and feeling can’t be hidden from her Master.   

 3)  modify a slave’s views and goals and change faulty motivations. -- Goal alignment is important to the process.  If the slave has a different expectation of slavery or a different goal than a Master, then training will be very confusing and may fail.    It is helpful to look at the source of motivation for a particular goal you have established in training.    (see Goals and Motivation)  

4)  develop a sense of being owned in the slave --   A feeling of “being owned” is necessary in slave training.   After all, a slave is owned by her Master.   It is her power source and makes her whole and happy.    However, it is not always as easy to develop as one might think.  There are many factors involved.  Trust is the major issue.  She has to, over time, develop a sense of trust for her Master in order to “let go”.

 5)  develop her skills into a better contributing slave to her Master --    This of course this is not only learning new behavior, but also including the new behavior in her daily life.   It also involves practice, practice, practice.  A slave has no choice in how she behaves, because the way she behaves is owned by her Master and therefore she is helpless to change it.   Learning this behavior, takes time.   In addition a slave’s attitude is critical to a long-term relationship.    

The re-education and reorientation phase puts insight into action.  In reorientation and re-education the key elements are: 

1)        Encouragement  

2)        Change or modification of goals to align with her Master’s  

3)        Changing behaviors, attitudes, values and perceptions 

4)        Motivation modification (holistic changes) (body, mind and spirit); motivation is the key to accomplishing goals and the slave will be expected to use her motivations to meet her Master’s goals.