slave train­ing — photo by China Hamilton

Please view it as a psy­cho­log­i­cal guide to train­ing and ref­er­ence you can turn into a prac­ti­cal slave train­ing aid by adapt­ing it to your life. I don’t know your own BDSM lifestyle, kink or sex­ual pref­er­ences there­fore I can only give you a gen­eral guide. You have to do the detailed work based upon your per­sonal needs for a slave and your method of train­ing.  Remem­ber that is the fun of this and the joy in life, not read­ing slave train­ing the­ory.  A slave train­ing guide on the­ory only pre­pares you to put your art in  practice.

What is the goal for slave training?

The goal of slave train­ing of course is to train a slave trainee to the point she will become your slave and most likely you’ll give her a slave col­lar.  You take her and mold her to where she serves you well. You train your slave to accom­plish what makes you happy.  If you want a sex slave then train her for that pur­pose. If you want a domes­tic ser­vice slave then give her that slave training.

When you  give her your slave col­lar to wear she then becomes your prop­erty and that usu­ally  con­cludes the basic slave train­ing.  The slave col­lar is often given at a for­mal col­lar­ing ceremony.  This slave col­lar­ing cer­e­mony is a bdsm lifestyle pub­lic demon­stra­tion of your accept­ing her as your slave (prop­erty).  It is how you nor­mally acknowl­edge she has com­pleted the basic slave train­ing and you for­mally accept her slav­ery.  This denotes a long-term mas­ter slave rela­tion­ship.  How­ever not all master’s use a for­mal ceremony.

Before the for­mal slave col­lar­ing she may wear  train­ing col­lars of var­i­ous types and degrees for a period of time in the slave train­ing pro­gram.  Many Master’s train their slaves using three types of col­lars: 1)  Col­lar of Con­sid­er­a­tion, 2) Train­ing Col­lar and 3) For­mal Col­lar (slave col­lar).  In the begin­ning a girl will be given a col­lar of con­sid­er­a­tion and after she is accepted in train­ing she will receive a train­ing col­lar.  After the basic train­ing is com­plete she received a for­mal or slave col­lar.  Often a slave will be required to sign a slave con­tract before receiv­ing a train­ing col­lar.   The slave con­tract details the agree­ment of serve between a mas­ter and slave in the bdsm lifestyle. She signs the non-legal bind­ing agree­ment stat­ing what pow­ers she gives to her mas­ter.   Some slave con­tracts are short and direct and some are very detailed.   Again these are gen­eral rules.   Not every Mas­ter uses the 3 col­lar struc­ture (some use more and some use less) in their slave train­ing pro­gram.  This slave train­ing guide does not advo­cate one type of giv­ing col­lars over another.

For the dom­i­nants new to the lifestyle and slave train­ing,  first you need to learn how to be a mas­ter of a slave girl and how to safely con­duct slave train­ing.  Many in the lifestyle fol­low the Gorean model which is taken from fic­tion books writ­ten by John Nor­man about life on the myth­i­cal planet Gor.  All that fic­tion , Gorean rit­u­als and Gorean style slave posi­tions are not nec­es­sary to be a very  knowl­edgable and skill­ful mas­ter that can train his slave well.  Mas­ters were con­duct­ing slave train­ing before John Norma wrote any of the Gor tales.  I like many, enjoy Norman’s book but don’t made by slave train­ing for lifestyle around these books of fic­tion.   BUT I do love to read them.

For the new slave trainee, the bdsm Master/slave lifestyle is filled with pro­to­cols, rit­u­als, rules and slave posi­tions to learn.  Every slave girl can expect most if not all these will be included in her basic slave or sub­mis­sive train­ing reg­i­ment.  But in gen­eral,  if you don’t want to step into the Master/slave rela­tion­ship you can choose to be to engage in a  dom­i­nant  sub­mis­sive rela­tion­ship.  There is noth­ing wrong with that. This lifestyle is about con­sen­sual  sub­mis­sion and con­sen­sual slav­ery even with total power exchange.  You choose the level of your par­tic­i­pa­tion in the lifestyle.

Unless you have prior expe­ri­ence you will most likely  NOT start your  slave train­ing expe­ri­ence being a slave.  It’s more likely you go through a process of becom­ing a slave.  The goal is for you to be best slave you can be but don’t expect it the first day.  For many, the step by step process of becom­ing a sub­mis­sive or slave  is a more nat­ural process. you have  a desire to be owned even if you don’t feel you have a sub­mis­sive per­son­al­ity.  The speed you become a slave depends on your abil­ity to learn to serve, obey and please and your atti­tude.  The bdsm dom­i­nant sub­mis­sive lifestyle is one that can give you joy and sat­isfy that deep need and long­ing buried in your soul.

A mas­ter becomes a slave’s per­sonal trainer to guide her into the future.  For new master’s want­ing to expand their skills I have done some  “train the trainer classes” and may again in the future.

In the past I have train­ing slave’s for their Mas­ter. I have also tak­ing slave girls into my home  for per­sonal and phys­i­cal train­ing.  On this web­site I dis­cuss deep psy­cho­log­i­cal prin­ci­ples of  train­ing a slave.  But at the core slave train­ing is an art form albeit based on knowl­edge and skills founded in logic and reason.

I have also con­ducted train­ing classes in the use of hyp­no­sis and slave train­ing for the pur­pose of teach­ing a dom­i­nant how to be a slave mas­ter.  My train­ing is geared toward train­ing dom­i­nant males and sub­mis­sive females or female slave.  How­ever I have also trained dom­i­nant females and assisted in the train­ing of sub­mis­sive males.

If you are just get­ting stated in the bdsm lifestyle,  be sure to fol­low some basic safety pre­cau­tions and  be aware that there are those only inter­ested in domes­tic abuse and vio­lence.  If you  meet some­one be sure to estab­lish safe calls with a friend even if you have talked to the on-line for a long time.

Also remem­ber that the dom­i­nant sub­mis­sive lifestyle is a huge and diverse tent with many mem­bers  that enjoy edge play and things you may not have even heard of.  What some peo­ple enjoy as kinky play in their bdsm rela­tion­ship may not appeal to you.  So be sure to ask and ask and ask to get your ques­tions answered.

Now back to B.E.S.T. slave train­ing and how I con­duct slave training.

Foun­da­tions of B.E.S.T. slave Train­ing guide

The B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide stands for Behav­ior, Emo­tions, Self-Image and Thoughts. I feel that these are all key areas a Mas­ter  uses in slave train­ing to cre­ate a foun­da­tion  for his slave to serv­ing, obey­ing and pleas­ing.  Chang­ing (if nec­es­sary), man­ag­ing and con­trol­ling Behav­ior, Emo­tions, Self-image and Thought are all part devel­op­ing her. Each of the four cor­ners of  BDSM slave train­ing guide are explored in detail and has its own sec­tion.  Many only look at the Behav­ior sec­tion of this slave train­ing guide but the other three areas are just as impor­tant for a Mas­ter to under­stand and use in his train­ing of a slave girl.  This slave train­ing guide should be viewed in it entirety first because it is a the­ory based on the whole being of a slave not just behavior.

What do I need to train my slave?

You need a dom­i­nant per­son­al­ity, a good char­ac­ter she can trust , and a few basic skills.   You have to know what you want and that “want” has to be real­is­tic and obtain­able.  Read­ing this slave train­ing guide and under­stand her “make up”  is a good start.   Her Behav­ior is gov­erned by her emo­tions and think­ing and the B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide explores them in detail from many angles.   This slave train­ing guide takes you beyond bdsm play into the real world of train­ing a slave to serve and please you for life.  The B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide is not intended to be used for week­end sport.   If you are seri­ous about liv­ing the lifestyle and learn­ing how to own­ing a slave this slave train­ing guide will help you start down that road.

A look at the slave train­ing guide:

The slave train­ing guide tech­niques and man­age­ment menu sec­tion is a resource guides to actual train­ing. Here you learn about spank­ing, bondage, frig­ging and other nasty prac­tices you will love.   Many detail related to slave train­ing are dis­cussed in this guide.  In addi­tion some defin­ing char­ac­ter­is­tics of a Mas­ter are discussed.

The BDSM lifestyle sec­tion cov­ers arti­cles about the lifestyle and why it is OK to love bdsm and slave train­ing. NO, you are NOT crazy so lighten up. You don’t need pro­fes­sional help for hav­ing these feel­ings.  All that is dis­cussed in this slave train­ing manual.

A dic­tio­nary of BDSM terms is also included.  In the BDSM Lifestyle sec­tion of the guide I also cover the way the DSM IV views BDSM.

Arti­cles of inter­est to the BDSM lifestyle com­mu­nity and to B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide are in the “arti­cles Index” under the “Other” menu. Arti­cles will be con­stantly added about slave train­ing, BDSM lifestyle, and so on.

As this bdsm lifestyle & slave train­ing guide devel­ops many other sub­jects will be more deeply explored, such as: bondage, dom­i­nance, sub­mis­sion, humil­i­a­tion, flog­ging, spank­ing, can­ning, train­ing, pun­ish­ment, B&D, S&M, BDSM, hyp­no­sis, sex­u­al­ity, sex slave train­ing, advanced orgasm con­trol, dis­ci­pline, sus­pen­sion, dun­geons, and safe, sane, and con­sen­sual prac­tices.  This slave train­ing guide and BDSM lifestyle resource  is intended to expand and stay cur­rent with today’s news topic about bdsm.

With the new for­mat for this slave train­ing guide  I will start a blog that you can join. It will be acti­vated in a bit after I get all pages uploaded again.  So keep check­ing back. I want to keep this web­site rel­e­vant to cur­rent needs in the bdsm com­mu­nity and more impor­tantly to Mas­ters and slaves and the new for­mat will help.

Thank you for your sup­port since the site started in 2002.  I hope we con­tinue together explor­ing the Master/slave dynam­ics for years and years through this gen­eral bdsm lifestyle and slave train­ing guide.

Per­sonal note to new mas­ters & slaves  inter­ested in the slave train­ing guide and the gen­eral bdsm lifestyle

bound naked slave girl in training

Much of this slave train­ing guide web­site deals with psy­cho­log­i­cal the­ory.  But the fun of slave train­ing is grab­bing your slave by the hair if her head and/or see­ing her kneel before you with that look only her mas­ter sees in her eyes.  There is noth­ing like hands on slave train­ing.  This slave train­ing guide only aids you by your knowl­edge.  The B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide  has never trained the first slave by itself.  The skills of a Mas­ter and the will­ing­ness of a slave are needed.  I truly believe slave train­ing is pri­mar­ily an art form and not a sci­ence.  So grab a hand-full of her hair and gets started :-)

NOW that is not to say that you don’t need a man­ual, men­tor, or train­ing guide to help you get started.  But don’t drag your feet. Besides this slave train­ing guide there are prob­a­bly local “munch” groups in your area with many expe­ri­ences Mas­ter, slave, subs, Tops, and switches to help you get started.

There are also some very good books that can be used as a guide as you progress into the BDSM lifestyle.

There are many on-lines dat­ing ser­vices geared to help you find a Mas­ter or dom­i­nant or slave or sub­mis­sive.  One is listed at the bot­tom of this page on the right in the footer.

The fol­low­ing are the main and  impor­tant cat­e­gories of the slave train­ing guide.

The­ory of B.E.S.T. (an exam­i­na­tion of the Basic the­ory of the manual)

Prac­tice of B.E.S.T. (look­ing at a slave’s  behav­ior, emo­tions, self-image & thoughts)

 Behav­ior

 Emo­tions

 Self-Image

 Thoughts

Rec­om­mended Books on slav­ery and those inter­ested in the BDSM lifestyle

BDSM slave train­ing guide and bdsm resource book: Pro­to­cols: Hand­book for the female slave 

Won­der­ful BDSM Images (I am for­ever in his debt for allow­ing me to use some of his images on B.E.S.T. slave train­ing guide)

China Hamil­ton

All the bdsm lifestyle & slave train­ing man­ual mate­r­ial on this site is copy­righted by ME and you don’t have per­mis­sion to repro­duce any of it with­out my express con­sent. Don’t even assume per­mis­sion to use it is implied. It is not. Yes this means you. all mate­r­ial is © 2002 to 2012